When I was little, I heard people insulting each other with the word gay.

[conuly]

Well, we all heard it, didn't we? I didn't get it, though. I thought that they meant "happy". I was *really* out of touch with mainstream society at that age, and read a lot of old books :) When I finally, finally figured out what they meant, I still didn't get it. I mean, why would anybody even care?

I still think that. And it irks me. I wish I could say I'm nice and tolerant and all, but that's just not true. I'm not nice, or tolerant, or open-minded, or any of it. I just don't care. Sure, I want you to be happy, in a vague sense, and if I know you I actually *do* want you to be happy - but I'm not being tolerant of you! I really don't care what you do! I don't care what you believe, either, so long as you aren't harming me, or unhappy with it. It'd be great to be able to talk about how wonderfully open-minded I am about people's beliefs, but I can't do that because I just don't care! I'm vaguely interested in religion, it's an off-and-on passion of mine (admittedly, most of this passion died when I realized that the Greek and Norse gods probably didn't exist....), but... yeah, not caring. So, I don't care who you fuck, and I don't care how you pray, and I don't especially care what you eat... I wish there was something I *did* care about, just so I could be tolerant.

*sighs*

*giggles*

Pretty silly rantling, huh? Lub ya all dearly. *hugs everyone and hands out kittens*

Comments

[fjorab-teke.livejournal.com]

*giggles* I love you Connie...you're wonderfully "uncaring." (HUGS)

I could have quite truthfully typed out that very same first paragraph!

[noodles-morgyn.livejournal.com]

Sounds like a good definition of 'open-minded' to me. xD

[bridgetester.livejournal.com]

But you do care about things. You care about whether people are happy, and love, and kittens, and rudeness, and silliness. and justice. and babies.

[conuly]

Yeah, I know. But it's not the same as being tolerant.

[innerbrat]

*sheepishly raises hand*

I've started doing that again.

No, no, wait, let me explain. My friends and I also use the word "Goth" as an insult. Most of us are bisexual, some of us are gay, and all of us wear an inordinate amount of black and like music in the metal/industrial/80s type area, meaning that the two words do actually apply.

Saying "You goth!" or "you gay!" (or "goph" or "ghey" or any variations thereof) is an affectionate poke. "You're behaving like a stereotype, but I love you." Usually anything we do could be described as either 'goth' or 'gay', as polar opposites (dancing like a maniac? Gay. Sulking in the corner? Goth, etc etc), so it's a bit difficult to escape.

But we only do it because we love each other.

So, um... yeah.

[dkmnow.livejournal.com]

I just don't care.

If "ninety-nine percent of the art of helping lies in knowing what not to do" (as it does), then you're batting 990 by default.

More caring such as yours can only make the world...a much safer place!

;-)

[conuly]

You mean not caring.

[meryls-corner.livejournal.com]

Oooh, kitty cat! Yay!

[lizziey.livejournal.com]

dear god, tell me you were kidding about the kittens. who had them, if you weren't...

[conuly]

Of course I was.

*hides the tiger cubs*

[lizziey.livejournal.com]

lol. ok. just making sure you didn;t have another kittens boirn too soon in the year problem.

[athanata.livejournal.com]

i had never heard that expression till i got to college. i think it was my first or second day and the guy in the room next to me said "that's so gay!" i was like "WTF!? What kind of thing to say is that!?"

[conuly]

Just going down the list?

And you are *so* lucky. Even in elementary school, they know those stupid insults.

[fjorab-teke.livejournal.com]

*giggles* I love you Connie...you're wonderfully "uncaring." (HUGS)

I could have quite truthfully typed out that very same first paragraph!

[noodles-morgyn.livejournal.com]

Sounds like a good definition of 'open-minded' to me. xD

[bridgetester.livejournal.com]

But you do care about things. You care about whether people are happy, and love, and kittens, and rudeness, and silliness. and justice. and babies.

[conuly]

Yeah, I know. But it's not the same as being tolerant.

[innerbrat]

*sheepishly raises hand*

I've started doing that again.

No, no, wait, let me explain. My friends and I also use the word "Goth" as an insult. Most of us are bisexual, some of us are gay, and all of us wear an inordinate amount of black and like music in the metal/industrial/80s type area, meaning that the two words do actually apply.

Saying "You goth!" or "you gay!" (or "goph" or "ghey" or any variations thereof) is an affectionate poke. "You're behaving like a stereotype, but I love you." Usually anything we do could be described as either 'goth' or 'gay', as polar opposites (dancing like a maniac? Gay. Sulking in the corner? Goth, etc etc), so it's a bit difficult to escape.

But we only do it because we love each other.

So, um... yeah.

[dkmnow.livejournal.com]

I just don't care.

If "ninety-nine percent of the art of helping lies in knowing what not to do" (as it does), then you're batting 990 by default.

More caring such as yours can only make the world...a much safer place!

;-)

[conuly]

You mean not caring.

[meryls-corner.livejournal.com]

Oooh, kitty cat! Yay!

[lizziey.livejournal.com]

dear god, tell me you were kidding about the kittens. who had them, if you weren't...

[conuly]

Of course I was.

*hides the tiger cubs*

[lizziey.livejournal.com]

lol. ok. just making sure you didn;t have another kittens boirn too soon in the year problem.

[athanata.livejournal.com]

i had never heard that expression till i got to college. i think it was my first or second day and the guy in the room next to me said "that's so gay!" i was like "WTF!? What kind of thing to say is that!?"

[conuly]

Just going down the list?

And you are *so* lucky. Even in elementary school, they know those stupid insults.