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Or the lack thereof.

Now, every time it comes up about people not having this type of playground equipment or that type of playground equipment in their area, it's all "oh, oh, oversafety".

And I have no doubt that misguided safety concerns lead to the boringification of many playgrounds. (REALLY misguided safety concerns. If you make the playground "safe", kids just play less safely, resulting in a net loss of, well, safety.)

But this specific person complained that playgrounds in preschools near her were cramped and small... and also, lacked swings. If they're small and cramped, they probably don't have room for swings. Swings require a lot of space, and only a few children can use them at any one time. If you're short on space, better to use something that many children can play on at once, and that allows for greater scope in play.

Especially in a preschool, where having swings means you need people to help the children on the swings.

At any rate, the conversation revealed something interesting. I mentioned, after several comments about kids running in front of swings and getting bonked in the head, that I thought that sounded just weird. Don't all swingsets in playgrounds have fences around them to prevent this from happening?

Apparently not, and many people said they'd never seen such a thing. Which strikes me, like I said, as weird. It's the norm, possibly even the law for NYC playgrounds! What's it like where you are?

Also on that blog is this link on lunchtime notes. Now, it's always amused me that whenever it's something that the person in question did as a kid or does with their kids it's quite all right, but when it's something Those Other Folks do it's a sign of the apocalypse.

And this can go both ways. Class birthday parties are anti-free range and spoiling children because GOD, can't kids go on in the school day without that silliness? Not having class birthday parties is anti-free range and cruel to children because GOD, did it ever hurt any of us? Leashes are cruel and restrictive. Hand-holding is cruel and restrictive. Teaching your kid to stand by your side is cruel and restrictive. Letting your child run around is cruel to everybody else and stupid. And don't get me started on Santa.

No, no matter what position you commonly take in whatever broader argument you're currently fighting, any individual child-raising practice can be neatly slotted in on your side or theirs, and extolled or demonized as you see fit.

In this case, notes in lunchboxes (except very rarely) are hovering and helicopterish.

Now, I agree, that the pre-printed notes mentioned are sappy and dumb. It's a lunchbox note, not an affirmation. Sending in a note saying "I love you unconditionally" is a good way to get your kid teased, and sending in a note saying that that you purchased ready-made is a good way to confuse your child. "Dad loves me, but not enough to write four words on a piece of paper?"

But I don't think that writing a note, even daily, is going to warp your child's individuality. I mean, it's not like they're bringing their kids home every day for an hour-long lunch with Mom, a newfangled idea that my mother grew up with. Oh. Wait. Right! Lunchbox notes are hovering and unprecedented, but much greater parental involvement at lunch in the past goes unmentioned, probably because it doesn't fit in with this image.
conuly: image of Elisa Mazda (Gargoyles) - "Watcher of the City" (watcher of the city)
Sometimes, when I read articles on "modern playgrounds" or the comments to them, I wonder if these people and I frequent the same playgrounds, I must admit.

For example, one common complaint in the comments is "Waaa, what happened to all the merry-go-rounds???" but the only merry-go-round* I ever saw as a child was in Belgium. Now that I'm a grown-up, I know of several playgrounds with merry-go-rounds (in three different styles! the custom-made bike merry-go-round in Battery Park City, one without handles that's tilted and that has plenty of free space underneath so children can't get trapped, and one that you jump and hang from), but I never saw them as a kid.

Or people complain about having fewer swings or see-saws, and while I see the point (especially when it comes to see-saws, which were my favorite as a child), I sometimes think that the problem isn't safety concerns (or not JUST safety concerns) but a different philosophy altogether for playgrounds, less free-standing equipment with ONE USE ONLY and more connected equipment that can be used in different ways, that lends itself to more imaginative play, and that allows more children to play on it at once. (And in the article I posted before, there was one comment whining that that equipment is "fun, but you can't follow your toddler around and it's not safe!" Well, dude, go to a toddler-geared playground and sit down on the bench!)

It's also worth noting that right now, lots of people are complaining that playgrounds are too safe, which means that in some areas, newer playgrounds are being built to be more dangerous-looking (if not actually more dangerous) because of that complaint, so of course, you can't just look at your local playground to see what the trend is. I think we're at the swing of the pendulum, actually.

That said, we went to this playground Thursday. She's right, there's nowhere near enough shade. Most of the playground wasn't being used because it was so hot!

However, this playground is a perfect example of new equipment that's as stretching as old. This one had what I think of "new-style" equipment - very ropes-focused and curvy. (I call this new, but what my mother calls new is the stuff that was common when I was young, wooden blocks with bars attached. And there's all the mostly-metal structures with lots of bridges that comes between my mother's new and my new. That's still current, of course.) And whatever people say about "jungle gyms are too small now", the spider-web style jungle gym was probably at least nine feet high. And the design of it means, I suspect, that it's more of a challenge to climb than the old-style all metal ones. Plus, it doesn't heat up so much in the sun, which is an advantage when the designers are too dumb to put in shade.

You can just see the "spider-web" in the back of this photo. It's the blue thing. The monkeybars are more visible in the front - if they're like the similar ones at Union Square, they turn slightly from side to side as you use them.

(A word on the sprinklers in that playground. They were made by this company that uses poles with hidden sensors to turn them on. You have to rub your hand over the flat part until it decides to work. There are no labels, of course. It's a stupid design, made stupider by the fact that they also include a pump that, as near as I can tell, either does nothing or was broken. Because I was the only one who knew how to turn on the sprinklers, I was the only one who had to keep getting up to do it.)

*To me, merry-go-rounds are the ones that are child-propelled. If they have horses and music and you pay to ride them, they're carousels. But I'm aware some people call carousels merry-go-rounds.
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So, a kid was seriously burned on the playsurfacing in NYC.

I am *not* surprised.

Ignore the comments - they're all "Oh, well, nobody should ever go barefoot ever ever ever", and not only is that, I believe, a flawed view but, really, it's entirely beside the point. It's a playground. The mats are there so that when children slip and fall, they don't get hurt. But if the mats burn them, when your kid slips and falls, your kid is gonna get *very* hurt.

Worse yet, most playgrounds go directly from sprinkler to mat to sand to mat with no space in between. Well, it's not reasonable to keep your shoes on in the sprinkler or sandbox - and that one second, you blink, and the kid has gone from one area to another without putting their shoes back on. Whoops.

Now, as I understand it, playgrounds have to be resurfaced regularly. Some playgrounds we go to often (in wealthier neighborhoods) are resurfaced pretty much yearly - maybe ever 18 months or so instead. It shouldn't be that hard to simply get a different type of mat to cover the ground when you go through your required fixing-up.
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I thought I could take the D up, but I didn't realize that the D runs express after about 72 street. Whoops. So I ended up at 125th and went across the platform for the downtown B instead.

Now, I thought the program was at the playground at 100th West - but no. There *is* a playground there... but they're doing construction. So, 13 blocks later (three down, ten up) we get to the playground at 110th street and get there just in time for the *end* of Storytime. Well, they're running that program all summer, no great loss.

This is a nice playground. Full of modern playground equipment (the sort I don't really understand, but Ana caught on after seeing other kids playing on it) and with the blacktop molded and sculpted into hills and such, which is *really cool*.

And a sandbox.

I was so proud of Ana in the sandbox.

First, when another five year old (I asked) was trying to start (or, I suspect, continue) an argument, she simply didn't rise to the bait. When he said he'd smash her sandcake it was "I don't care" (a phrase which is so often the bane of my existence, but which was *totally appropriate* in this context), and when he said he'd take this sand toy it was "Fine, I'm done with it" and when it was finally "Well, you don't know me, that's why you're being mean" she just turned her back on him and didn't answer.

I have no idea what prompted any of this exchange (Ana didn't answer me once he'd left and I asked - I didn't interfere as it went on because I like to let them deal with things more or less themselves, you know?), but Ana handled it just the right way, very sensible and mature.

Later, as we were about to leave in ten minutes (theoretically), I came up to tell Ana that and found her defending a smaller child, maybe just-turned-two. The little one had a toy, and another five or four year old wanted it, and Ana just stood there repeating "No, it's hers. You can't have it, she had it first" at her, eventually taking (gently) the older girl's hand and repeating that she could not have the toy. When the younger child's mother came up going "Share, share" it was Ana who stepped in and explained that no, the little one was behaving just fine, it was the older girl who was trying to snatch the toy away! Baby's mother was a little startled at this revelation (two year olds being the way they are), but it worked.

I love this. I am so proud just to know Ana-banana.

Evangeline, to her credit, was well-behaved despite not having napped.
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That's this one. The toddler playground was closed for resurfacing. (And why is it that safety surfaces are invariably black? That just makes their heat-absorbing properties worse! Don't start me on the lack of shade in playgrounds either.)

Now, you know I've talked a lot before about absurd age-ranges on playgrounds. A playground marked for ages "5-12" when it's really more like a 3-9 set-up, or that bizarre one in California that claimed to be suited for kids aged 2-12 (no such thing).

This is one that works for a wide range of ages, this playground. Most of the structures are just hard enough to challenge an older kid, with an easier method for younger kids. Only one structure really was not Evangeline-safe - a platform with no way down but down the ladder or the firepole, and the whole thing some 7 feet up. (Alas, we were *up there* when I saw there was no way to get to the lower level that had a slide! So I had to call for help, and another woman lifted Evangeline down for me.)

The real plus of this playground, though, is that it's not just a random group of play structures. There's a "fort" that really works like a maze, and the sprinkler runs down a channel and makes a little bit of a pool at the end, and the whole place looks like it's just made for kids to run around and pretend in, instead of simply proving that they can climb really high.

More playgrounds should be built with that in mind.

Nearest bathroom is at Tavern on the Green, and they *will* let you use their toilets. Yay!
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Went here today. Right by the Met.

Ana had great fun - she played in the sand, mostly, but she did do a few "adventurous" things. She braved the rope swings, for example, with help from me. Well, that was about it. She didn't, oddly, gravitate towards the tire swings, nor the slides. I suppose it's just been a while since she's had a big sandbox to play in.

Pros - it's a huge sandbox. Even though it's geared for older kids (though all the standard swings are baby-swings, oddly), you can bring a younger child there just to play in the sand.

It has a lot of toddler/infant sized slides. You don't have to clog up the bottom quarter of a normal slide for your kid to have fun, and the younger slides are non-steep enough that you don't have to hold the older babies, really (unless they want it).

It's huge. Lots of room to run around.

Cons - it's a huge sandbox. Gritty pants, anybody? And most kids got into the sand before taking off their shoes. Why do kids do that, anyway? I remember doing that!

The more fun parts can be hard for younger children to do - the rope swing, the climbing areas.

It's huge. Even though there appears to only be the one gate, if your kid is prone to wandering off, it's hard to keep an eye on them. Ana's starting to really grasp "Don't leave this area", but she's only three. I still want to at least be able to see her - and with a giant structure in the middle of this playground, it can be kinda hard.

Like a lot of older playgrounds, there's a lot of asphalt in the non-sand area (hardly any of it, when I put it that way) - and with the trees, it's getting a bit buckled. Whether this is good or bad depends on your view of childhood, but I'm going to stick it here.

My thoughts: I liked it. I think I remember going here as a child, even - nostalgia value :)

But I think next time I go, I'll go on a special trip with Ana and a friend, and either leave the baby at home, or have another adult so that one of us watches the baby while the other watches the bigger kids. Or I could wait until Ana's older, but I want to do this every-playground thing yearly :)

Ideally, the playground works for ages 5+, I should think - though other than the rope swing, none of it is all that exciting for the daredevil types.

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