A few articles from alternet

[conuly]

One on the "culture of life".
One on the current Blair scandal.
One on PBS.
One on pollution and swimming the length of a river.

Comments

[22hawk22.livejournal.com]

im a BC student, wondering if you can email me so we can chat at: farfromcompletion19@netzero.com

thanks

[conuly]

You're my creepy stalker dude, and until you convince me that you're not after my blooooood, I'm not emailing you.

[22hawk22.livejournal.com]

no no, im not a stalker, just a guy whos very shy, and the way i got to figure out that your on livejournal was during a time i saw you in the library basement, i thought to myself ill wait till you left to class or something and see if i can get your email address to contact you, and what is this blood talk? nahhhhh, im not a stalker killer guy, just a shy guy.

[conuly]

Uh-huh. And how did you find out which LiveJournal was mine, pray tell?

[hopefulnebula]

You know, you certainly *seem* to be out for blood here.

[rantinan.livejournal.com]

jeeze dude, i'm autistic, shy and creapy.... and i find you creapy...


Conny, this is why i like girls. :)

[22hawk22.livejournal.com]

i took a guess at which journel was yours, i dooo go to brooklyn college, im not sayin that BC made me a genius, but i looked at the picture part of your journel and i saw 2 pics of you, you were holding a kid in one pic, and in the other one you were watching kids, i know your uncomforatble talking to something whos tryin to chat with you out of no where, but im not the type to harm anybody, im palestinian, my family is muslim, and there very strict about making female friends, so this is the way i kinda get around that, im online now if you have time to keep reply, that'll be great :)

[conuly]

So, basically, you know what I look like because you've seen pictures, and you were willing to randomly spend the time searching out EVERY person at BC with a livejournal to find me? That's a little creepy.

[leora.livejournal.com]

Just a bit of friendly advice... most smart girls like proper use of apostrophes.

[neurotica0.livejournal.com]

And proper capitilization and spelling!

[leora.livejournal.com]

Well, I didn't think I should give away all of the secrets to getting chicks.

[22hawk22.livejournal.com]

no no, its nothinggg like that, i knew what you looked like beforeeeee i knew about livejournal, i saw you a few time in the library basement, i even had a class with you in CIS but i dropped it after a week cause i didn't like the class, after seeing you a few times in the library basement, i just walked to your computer after you got off it and went to class and saw the conuly profile, i said to myself: she looks like a person whos name would be connie,lol, i saved your profile on my address book a while ago, and just decided to register in livejournal the other day cause i saw you again, i just wanna be friends, and if something else happens between us, then we'll see what happens, reply asap, ;)

[mortaine.livejournal.com]

Here you go. Just switch the pronouns. (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/068987474X/qid=1115246106/sr=8-1/ref=pd_csp_1/002-2696336-8652862?v=glance&s=books&n=507846)

[queenmargot.livejournal.com]

So what you're saying is, you just happened to see conuly at school a couple of times, used magic computer mojo to find her, and signed up for LJ to try to get to be her friend?

You know how, when you meet someone in real life, you're not automatically friends? I mean, it takes time. Hanging out, grabbing lunch, that sort of thing. You're not just friends once you meet. The same thing applies online. Just because you got an LJ doesn't mean you guys are automatically best friends. The best way to approach someone online is the same way as you would in person. Talk occasionally (in this case, via comments). Also, you might want to write actual journal entries and join communities and things so that you have things to write about that other people can comment on.

[ancarett]

Young man, may I be so bold as to suggest that what you are doing here in these journal posts is harassment. Conuly has said that you are making her uncomfortable. If you were to act in a more gentlemanlike manner, you would leave now and let her be.

To do otherwise, to continue to visit her livejournal and post these importunate requests for her attention, is inappropriate and will only cause further discomfort.

If you persist in these attentions, it might become necessary to work through the BC tech services to discover your identity and possibly take action against you through the system. I speak as a seasoned professor and dotcom investigator who knows of the serious consequences attendant upon such a request. You would be identified and the authorities might be called in to stop your harassment. I suspect this would bring great upset to yourself and your family.

So be wise and stop now. Conuly has requested it and you should be a considerate human being and do as she has asked.

[beccak1961.livejournal.com]

She seems to have made it fairly clear you're creeping her out. And demanding she reply asap because something more might happen is a little premature.

[maladaptive.livejournal.com]

I must say-- you are a thoroughly creepy individual. And I play MMOs, I know creepy.

[concordantnexus.livejournal.com]

Dude:

let me spell this out for you:
She has indicated that she does NOT want contact with you.
End of Story.

====
You have indicated that you are of palestinian origin.

Allow me to be so bold as to make a few assumptions.

They are:
1.) You were either born there or you are from the Palestinian diaspora.
(deduced from your sentence structure & grammar + your lack of understanding how men & women interact here in the West).
2.) You are an average member of that group, meaning that you are neither fully Westernized (else you'd have a better understanding of Western social cues), nor are you fully 'Jihadi' (else you probably wouldn't be expressing interest in a Western girl, nor would you likely be in NYC)
3.) I'm hoping that I can draw relevant conclusions about your motivations, behaviours and actions based upon other men from similar backgrounds (although most of those backgrounds are Lebanese, Algerian, Tunisian, Moroccan, Iraqi, Iranian and Pakistani.). If anything, I will assume that the Palestinian background (occupied territory, warzone, displaced persons without a state etc) that has been driven to a reactionary state means that you are likely more conservative than the people that I know.

======
you've acknowledged that your parents/people are strict... this means that the strategies that you are familiar to 'meet' women are adapted to that.

Guess what? in the USA it's not like that. Here, if a woman says NO, for whatever reason, it means NO. Being persistent will not change the NO to a maybe or a yes. Being persistent is called harassment or stalking and will result in criminal charges and likely a restraining order.

Might I point out that in the current political climate, as person of your ethnicity should probably be following the laws of the land to the letter?

Might I also add that LJ can be subpoena'd for records of posts and comments that can be used as evidence in court?

Glad you're with me on this.

To reiterate, you've fucked up. Stop trying to contact her by any means, you are only making things worse.

Take it as a lesson and move on.

Might I suggest learning how to talk to and be friends with American men, or older women whom do not interest you as 'something else' or fellow Muslims and Arabs that have been in the West long enough to 'fit in'? or other foreign students? This way you'll hopefully learn American social cues and maybe overcome that shyness.

If you go to university or college, join some clubs/social organizations to: 1.) get out and learn to interact with people 2.) overcome your shyness & 3.) meet new people that *might* be interested in you.

Good luck and please leave our conuly alone.

Thank you.

[mhari.livejournal.com]

Hey now. Annoying people is annoying people regardless of culture, especially online. Granted this hawk guy is behaving like a putz, but why drag Origin into it?

[scarletdemon.livejournal.com]

She isn't going to reply sweetie. And your User Info shouldn't have her named, that's enough to scare any woman off.

You'd be better off looking for someone else, someone you haven't started off badly with...First impressions are hard to shake and you've screwed this one up too much.

[neurotica0.livejournal.com]

I agree with the bit about the user info.

To me, that makes his whole approach feel especially creepy. And like harrassment.

[22hawk22.livejournal.com]

im a BC student, wondering if you can email me so we can chat at: farfromcompletion19@netzero.com

thanks

[conuly]

You're my creepy stalker dude, and until you convince me that you're not after my blooooood, I'm not emailing you.

[22hawk22.livejournal.com]

no no, im not a stalker, just a guy whos very shy, and the way i got to figure out that your on livejournal was during a time i saw you in the library basement, i thought to myself ill wait till you left to class or something and see if i can get your email address to contact you, and what is this blood talk? nahhhhh, im not a stalker killer guy, just a shy guy.

[conuly]

Uh-huh. And how did you find out which LiveJournal was mine, pray tell?

[hopefulnebula]

You know, you certainly *seem* to be out for blood here.

[rantinan.livejournal.com]

jeeze dude, i'm autistic, shy and creapy.... and i find you creapy...


Conny, this is why i like girls. :)

[22hawk22.livejournal.com]

i took a guess at which journel was yours, i dooo go to brooklyn college, im not sayin that BC made me a genius, but i looked at the picture part of your journel and i saw 2 pics of you, you were holding a kid in one pic, and in the other one you were watching kids, i know your uncomforatble talking to something whos tryin to chat with you out of no where, but im not the type to harm anybody, im palestinian, my family is muslim, and there very strict about making female friends, so this is the way i kinda get around that, im online now if you have time to keep reply, that'll be great :)

[conuly]

So, basically, you know what I look like because you've seen pictures, and you were willing to randomly spend the time searching out EVERY person at BC with a livejournal to find me? That's a little creepy.

[leora.livejournal.com]

Just a bit of friendly advice... most smart girls like proper use of apostrophes.

[neurotica0.livejournal.com]

And proper capitilization and spelling!

[leora.livejournal.com]

Well, I didn't think I should give away all of the secrets to getting chicks.

[22hawk22.livejournal.com]

no no, its nothinggg like that, i knew what you looked like beforeeeee i knew about livejournal, i saw you a few time in the library basement, i even had a class with you in CIS but i dropped it after a week cause i didn't like the class, after seeing you a few times in the library basement, i just walked to your computer after you got off it and went to class and saw the conuly profile, i said to myself: she looks like a person whos name would be connie,lol, i saved your profile on my address book a while ago, and just decided to register in livejournal the other day cause i saw you again, i just wanna be friends, and if something else happens between us, then we'll see what happens, reply asap, ;)

[mortaine.livejournal.com]

Here you go. Just switch the pronouns. (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/068987474X/qid=1115246106/sr=8-1/ref=pd_csp_1/002-2696336-8652862?v=glance&s=books&n=507846)

[queenmargot.livejournal.com]

So what you're saying is, you just happened to see conuly at school a couple of times, used magic computer mojo to find her, and signed up for LJ to try to get to be her friend?

You know how, when you meet someone in real life, you're not automatically friends? I mean, it takes time. Hanging out, grabbing lunch, that sort of thing. You're not just friends once you meet. The same thing applies online. Just because you got an LJ doesn't mean you guys are automatically best friends. The best way to approach someone online is the same way as you would in person. Talk occasionally (in this case, via comments). Also, you might want to write actual journal entries and join communities and things so that you have things to write about that other people can comment on.

[ancarett]

Young man, may I be so bold as to suggest that what you are doing here in these journal posts is harassment. Conuly has said that you are making her uncomfortable. If you were to act in a more gentlemanlike manner, you would leave now and let her be.

To do otherwise, to continue to visit her livejournal and post these importunate requests for her attention, is inappropriate and will only cause further discomfort.

If you persist in these attentions, it might become necessary to work through the BC tech services to discover your identity and possibly take action against you through the system. I speak as a seasoned professor and dotcom investigator who knows of the serious consequences attendant upon such a request. You would be identified and the authorities might be called in to stop your harassment. I suspect this would bring great upset to yourself and your family.

So be wise and stop now. Conuly has requested it and you should be a considerate human being and do as she has asked.

[beccak1961.livejournal.com]

She seems to have made it fairly clear you're creeping her out. And demanding she reply asap because something more might happen is a little premature.

[maladaptive.livejournal.com]

I must say-- you are a thoroughly creepy individual. And I play MMOs, I know creepy.

[concordantnexus.livejournal.com]

Dude:

let me spell this out for you:
She has indicated that she does NOT want contact with you.
End of Story.

====
You have indicated that you are of palestinian origin.

Allow me to be so bold as to make a few assumptions.

They are:
1.) You were either born there or you are from the Palestinian diaspora.
(deduced from your sentence structure & grammar + your lack of understanding how men & women interact here in the West).
2.) You are an average member of that group, meaning that you are neither fully Westernized (else you'd have a better understanding of Western social cues), nor are you fully 'Jihadi' (else you probably wouldn't be expressing interest in a Western girl, nor would you likely be in NYC)
3.) I'm hoping that I can draw relevant conclusions about your motivations, behaviours and actions based upon other men from similar backgrounds (although most of those backgrounds are Lebanese, Algerian, Tunisian, Moroccan, Iraqi, Iranian and Pakistani.). If anything, I will assume that the Palestinian background (occupied territory, warzone, displaced persons without a state etc) that has been driven to a reactionary state means that you are likely more conservative than the people that I know.

======
you've acknowledged that your parents/people are strict... this means that the strategies that you are familiar to 'meet' women are adapted to that.

Guess what? in the USA it's not like that. Here, if a woman says NO, for whatever reason, it means NO. Being persistent will not change the NO to a maybe or a yes. Being persistent is called harassment or stalking and will result in criminal charges and likely a restraining order.

Might I point out that in the current political climate, as person of your ethnicity should probably be following the laws of the land to the letter?

Might I also add that LJ can be subpoena'd for records of posts and comments that can be used as evidence in court?

Glad you're with me on this.

To reiterate, you've fucked up. Stop trying to contact her by any means, you are only making things worse.

Take it as a lesson and move on.

Might I suggest learning how to talk to and be friends with American men, or older women whom do not interest you as 'something else' or fellow Muslims and Arabs that have been in the West long enough to 'fit in'? or other foreign students? This way you'll hopefully learn American social cues and maybe overcome that shyness.

If you go to university or college, join some clubs/social organizations to: 1.) get out and learn to interact with people 2.) overcome your shyness & 3.) meet new people that *might* be interested in you.

Good luck and please leave our conuly alone.

Thank you.

[mhari.livejournal.com]

Hey now. Annoying people is annoying people regardless of culture, especially online. Granted this hawk guy is behaving like a putz, but why drag Origin into it?

[scarletdemon.livejournal.com]

She isn't going to reply sweetie. And your User Info shouldn't have her named, that's enough to scare any woman off.

You'd be better off looking for someone else, someone you haven't started off badly with...First impressions are hard to shake and you've screwed this one up too much.

[neurotica0.livejournal.com]

I agree with the bit about the user info.

To me, that makes his whole approach feel especially creepy. And like harrassment.