Dear advice columnists of the world:

[conuly]

STOP ADVISING PEOPLE TO GO TO THERAPY WITH THEIR ABUSERS.

Sincerely, Me.

(Also, if you're writing to an advice column to ask if your spouse/parent/sibling is abusing you/your child/your pets, the answer is yes. If you want to know if you should leave due to the abuse, the answer is also yes, just as soon as you have a safe exit plan and, hopefully, some cash. There, now I've saved you a stamp.)

Comments

[author_by_night]

I've heard - and please don't quote me on this - that abusers can use tactics they learn there against their victims. I can also see them just faking it there.

[altamira16]

I have heard this too. They might use I-language to express wants and desires that are ridiculous. Here is a discussion of non-violent communication and abusers.

[flamingsword]

Ooh! Thank you!