Dear advice columnists of the world:

[conuly]

STOP ADVISING PEOPLE TO GO TO THERAPY WITH THEIR ABUSERS.

Sincerely, Me.

(Also, if you're writing to an advice column to ask if your spouse/parent/sibling is abusing you/your child/your pets, the answer is yes. If you want to know if you should leave due to the abuse, the answer is also yes, just as soon as you have a safe exit plan and, hopefully, some cash. There, now I've saved you a stamp.)

Comments

[conuly]

I don't really want to snark too hard at abuse victims, it's just... god, some of the advice columnists are really, really shitty about it! They're the ones who need to know "As soon as LW asks if it's abuse, skip to the end and say yes, then advise them to leave."

[wolby]

There are of course problems with Dan Savage, but this is one of the things he does really well. Always appreciate the periodic nothing-but-DTMFA columns.

[hafnia]

Yeah, Captain Awkward is good about this. Some of the older advice columnists...not so much! :)