Is it just me, or is "Give it up, you're not getting your shit back" really not appropriate?

[conuly]

"Oh, I am being constructive!

No, you aren't, sweetie. Not unless you either have my bag in hand or have the cash to replace everything in it! But I don't know, it's like she thinks what I really need and want is people dashing my hopes against the rocks!

THIS IS NOT HELPFUL.

Meanwhile, the newyorkers comm has its daily quota of "please adopt this cat" posts up in the form of a blind cat. This little ray of sunshine sure isn't commenting there going "Nobody's gonna want your blind cat, just toss it in the street!", even though we all do know that disabled kitties have a harder time getting adopted.

(Also, uh, anybody seen my bag? It has books in it!)

Edit: She's really just a very unpleasant person. I think if I go back there, I may lose it entirely, so could you do me a favor? Check in on the post a few times and if anybody ACTUALLY finds my bag or ACTUALLY has something useful to say, let me know? I hate to ask the favor, but I would like to refrain from cursing. I think I've been very good today.

Comments

[mc776]

I'll just second what kimerastorm said.

(But not there because they won't accept me as their friend /wrist)

[conuly]

What'd she say? I'm reluctant to go back until I calm down. I don't think I should post while watching Dexter anymore.

[mc776]

Quoth the owl:

And your excuse for being a miserable human being is what again?

Jeeze Louise... you arent being helpful, you are telling her to go out and spend money she dosent have because you doubt she will find the original books. Then you have the audacity to get upset when OP calls you on your bullshit?

Since my previous comment crazybitch posted a response to that, going back to being a complete prat. There's something seriously mentally and emotionally wrong with killmyunicorn and I don't think we can help her even if anyone cared.

[conuly]

She decided to try snarking in my journal too. Yeah... because that's so mature.

[conuly]

I did reply to her one last time, btw, which - I know, bad idea. But I'm drawn like a moth to the flame. War. Moth to the flamewar!

Though I'm glad to see that somebody who's not already a friend of mine agrees that she's way out of line. I seriously thought the only comment I'd get (if I got any at all - contrary to what ye olde twit thinks, I do understand how slim my odds here are) would be "Yup! Call me!"

Why else would anybody reply? The whole thing (excepting the edits now...) is under an lj-cut so it doesn't even take up that much space! And here I thought I was being bitchy when I pointed out to somebody that waiting to have a baby until the second avenue subway was finished is a really bad idea!

[mc776]

Why else would anybody reply?

Because.

I was recently a party to an exchange on lj_refugees where someone complained of a relatively personal matter and then followed up with an update, and I replied (first!) with ~why do you even care? after the original spat the other person did nothing wrong~.

But the issue there was a lot pettier than lost valuables.

[steorra]

What does "/wrist" mean?

[mc776]

"slash wrist"

making fun of self-centered adolescent woe-is-me types

[steorra]

Ah, okay. The two meanings I tried and rejected were a) slash = alternative (also pronounceable as "slash wrist"), but I don't think you'd even pretend to want someone to accept you as their wrist :P , and b) "end wrist", which makes even less sense.

[rantinan.livejournal.com]

it aint just you.

[conuly]

What really gets me is a. two minutes after my first comment I'd gone there to go "Sorry for being snippy, but I'm going to wait before that, seriously" when she left her second and b. twit came to my journal to be a bitch, a level of LJ drama I thought nobody engaged in anymore.

[erisiansaint]

It's not just you. If she truly thinks that was constructive, she's high.

[conuly]

Thank you. Sometimes, I just need the cheerful confirmation that I'm not the one in the wrong.

[janewilliams20.livejournal.com]

Confirming the confirmation. She's out of her tree.
(Good luck getting the books back, by the way.)

[conuly]

It hasn't even been a full day. Lost and found's not even open until tomorrow in the morning - how does she know how likely it is they have my stuff? She might as well give me the chance to *call* them before declaring that it's all useless.

[redbird]

No, it's not just you. She's dashing your hopes, and then trying to psychoanalyze you because you mind losing things you value and having that belittled by strangers. I am currently resisting the urge to ask what so traumatized her that being told her negative advice is unhelpful is upsetting her this much.

Also, on the factual side: when I put in a lost and found report to the MTA via the website, I got an automated reply telling me that things don't arrive there for two weeks. If the ferry terminal has a separate lost and found, that might be more efficient. (Nothing was said about why they take so long, of course.)

[conuly]

They get 240,000 items a year, processing them takes a while. But they have a different system for the trains (goes to a central location) and the buses (goes to the local depot).

And for the record, when my sister's had to get in touch with MTA lost and found, they just mailed her back her wallet.

Also, my hopes aren't actually *dashed*. I think I actually have a very healthy assessment as to how likely I am to see my books again. I just didn't expect anybody to comment unless they really had seen them. So I went in seconds from pleasantly surprised to "What is this?"

[pewter-wings.livejournal.com]

She has grammar fail to boot.

Hah!

Hope you find your books. I once lost a hand made blanket in Tennessee. No one could find it for two weeks until we went back. It was right where I left it, over the back of a sofa. The sales people thought it was part of the display.

[sporks5000.livejournal.com]

Let's give it a few days and then have someone respond to her post comment and insist that they found it. Mostly because I want to see how she responds to that (if any).

[conuly]

That would be hilarious, but also a little mean.

[sporks5000.livejournal.com]

It speaks very well of you as a human being. that you have no desire to be even just a little bit mean to this person.

[conuly]

Well, I was mad at her, because really she wasn't very nice at all, but pulling a practical joke on her expense wouldn't change her behavior in the future, and it wouldn't really make me feel much better. I can have the same feeling of glee just by picturing her response - except in the end, I hope to get it because I legitimately recover my stuff :)

[elenbarathi.livejournal.com]

Newspaper Lost and Found ads are either free or very inexpensive; that would be my first thought after calling the transit companies' customer-service numbers. Does CraigsList have a Lost and Found section you could post in?

Your chances of getting the bag back are actually pretty good. It's obviously a child's bag, with nothing in it of any value to an adult, and it was lost in a place where the finder will almost certainly be an adult - most grown-ups are pretty nice about wanting to return a kid's lost things, having all of us cried for lost things in our own childhoods.

For future reference, take a permanent marker and write their telephone number in the inside of their assorted bags, packs, purses, jackets and other detachable items, so there's a better chance of getting them back when they become detached.

*sigh Girls are always losing stuff; my daughter and her chosen-sister left a veritable trail of forgotten items behind them throughout their entire childhood. The best one can do is explain and enforce (while one can) the principle of leaving at home everything one doesn't actually need, especially anything valuable, personally precious, or particularly easy to lose.

Hmm... here's a thought; were any of the books in the bag either library books or school property? Worth a call to leave your name and number with the school or library if so, because the finder might call them to enquire who.

Anyway, good luck; I hope you get everything back very soon! *hugs*

[conuly]

*sigh Girls are always losing stuff; my daughter and her chosen-sister left a veritable trail of forgotten items behind them throughout their entire childhood. The best one can do is explain and enforce (while one can) the principle of leaving at home everything one doesn't actually need, especially anything valuable, personally precious, or particularly easy to lose.

As I was walking Evangeline and Ana's lunch over yesterday, I saw Evangeline's scarf neatly wrapped around a fence. "So, uh, I'm here with their lunches! Also, Evangeline seems to have lost her scarf, please give it back to her."

Of course, two weeks ago we saw a jacket hanging on a fire hydrant. "What's that?" "I don't know, let me - EVA! THIS IS YOUR JACKET!" "Oh, I didn't even know I'd lost it!"