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Here's a nifty trick. I often see people who have tantrummy kids trying, frantically, to keep them from kicking either the parents or the seat in front of them.

And this is what they do. If they're standing, they hold the kid under the armpits and put their other arm on the top of the kid's knees, and if they're sitting they do the same thing, but, you know, sitting.

This isn't very effective. The kid is still able to get in a few good kicks, and if you're standing they're also able to wiggle down and possibly out. If they fall and bump their butt in a tantrum they're REALLY be unhappy.

Hopefully, this doesn't come up very often, but sometimes you have to get from here to there without being kicked - either in the shins or off the bus. So this is what you do:

Put ONE arm around the kid's chest, under the armpits. Put the OTHER arm *under* the kid's legs. If you're walking, put them directly under the kid's knees so that the knees are higher than the butt. The kid can't wiggle out this way, and kicks will go harmlessly up into the air. If you're sitting, put that arm slightly lower, under the kid's calves. Kicks will go harmlessly up into the air (and not rebound onto your legs), and you'll also be able to maneuver better to avoid being headbutted.

Evangeline eventually did calm down, though this time we never did find out what was upsetting her. She kept saying NONONONONONONO!, but it's hard to deal with that when you don't know what she's saying no to.

In other news, Ana currently has 4 teeth out of her mouth, and another one or two loose. This has got to be some kind of record. The teeth that are coming in are HUGE. She already had big teeth! I suppose it's going to compensate for the few weeks she's spending more or less toothless. She just came into my room to inform me that the Tooth Fairy can take a vacation, LOL. I told her it's her mom's turn to be the Tooth Fairy.
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When you want to tell somebody they've been mildly offensive without offending them? Because this person didn't mean to offend, and you like them, and anyway it's not your cause to champion... but they've been offensive and you want to tell them. People shouldn't be saying things that are accidentally offensive.

And what if it's not offensive to the people whom it refers to? What if I've got the wrong end of the stick here? (Pretty sure I don't, but I've been a bit quick to irritate lately, if you haven't noticed....)

Hm.

I think I'll start by asking: would you mind if I told you you'd said something offensive?

If the person in question replies "no", I can go on to asking advice from people who know more about the specific subject at hand.

(And yes I know this is maddeningly vague. It's supposed to be. I don't want the person in question guessing, unlike most of the times when people say "IF YOU DO SUCH AND FUCH I WON'T BE YOUR FRIEND!" and everyone thinks it's them *but* the person it really is. I don't know how to do that without 1. making a special filter to exclude this person or 2. being maddeningly vague. Suggestions on this would also be appreciated. Odds are it's not you, anyway, because it's only one person out of my huge friends list. And... it's nobody I know in person, so those of you can breathe easily.)

And please comment if you have an opinion on being corrected for offensiveness. This'd be really helpful to me. For seriously offensive things, I don't care what you think (and may even recruit others to help drive the point home), for minor things.... I don't want to drag up the energy for an argument every time somebody says something off.

And please recall that I'm not upset, just... The post/comment in question (that's an or so you don't think it's one or the other) illustrates some serious misconceptions... I hate it when people are wrong.
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I've got a friend here whose son was diagnosed with AS, and she wants advice on making puberty and everything else easier. I rambled far more than I should've, and was probably completely non-helpful, but I know my friends have advice. Because you're all wonderful and over-educated?
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http://www.livejournal.com/community/book_icons/190243.html?thread=1937443#t1937443

Now, we've got a "don't complain about people asking for credit" policy over at [livejournal.com profile] book_icons. On top of that, I personally dislike the attitude shown in this user's comments - a minor "hey, he doesn't allow that, here's the link" seems more polite than "COPYRIGHT!!!!". I know that's not what she said, but I keep reading it like that. When we come right down to it, just about every icon on LiveJournal violates somebody's copyright, however both we and the vast majority of copyright holders pretend to ignore that little fact because prosecuting everyone would make you really unpopular and cost a lot of money and no money is being lost anyway. Or something.

But Brian Froud apparently is an exception, and I wouldn't want to harm anybody by having somebody else use his work without his permission on my comm.

So, what I need is a way to politely but firmly 1. tell off the commenter for violating the sacred rule about bitching at those who want credit (seriously, is it that big a deal?) and 2. remind everyone that copyright does exist, even if you're not profiting from it, and that it's up to you to make sure that you aren't going against the copyright holder's express wishes and/or setting yourself up for prosecution in the future.

But politely.

Help?

(And please don't be rushing off to comment. That negates the whole "politely" thing, even if you *are* polite)

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