Taken from asperger

[conuly]

I can safely say I'm disgusted.

Sure, you teach the kid to do something "because I said so". And as soon as you're not around to boss them - or they're old enough to move out, they won't do it anymore. Alternatively, you end up with a kid like me, who will never do something for that reason, because "that's not a reason". Sure, you punish your kid... and then you forget about them? Prisoners in jails aren't expected to stay there indefinitely because, well, we forgot when you were supposed to get out.

I don't know. Maybe it's just me, but I have this strange idea that when you treat your kids with less respect than criminals get, you're just setting yourself up for problems.

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[pehanoie.livejournal.com]

These children will perseverate about the injustice of being required to clean up their room before they go out. If you get into an argument with them, they will convince themselves that they are right. Many kids with ADD/ADHD love to argue - it's stimulating to them - so verbal arguments will go on and on, ad nauseum.

Sounds like punishment for being smart. Or punishment for having ADD. Completely unfair.

I wasn't a kicker and screamer, but I was sneaky. If someone said "Because I said so" when I was a kid, I usually found a way to do it anyway, at another time, when they couldn't tell me no.

My mom never spanked me for playing with a socket, but the way she acted the one time I did scared me enough not to play with it for a long time. That what usually worked on me- seeing my mother scared. I kind of understood that I would find out why she was scared eventually, or I could ask someone else. Guess I was a weird kid, in that if I figured out that someone didn't want to tell, I didn't ask them again.

[pehanoie.livejournal.com]

*Sigh* Please forgive the ugliness of the post.