Taken from asperger

[conuly]

I can safely say I'm disgusted.

Sure, you teach the kid to do something "because I said so". And as soon as you're not around to boss them - or they're old enough to move out, they won't do it anymore. Alternatively, you end up with a kid like me, who will never do something for that reason, because "that's not a reason". Sure, you punish your kid... and then you forget about them? Prisoners in jails aren't expected to stay there indefinitely because, well, we forgot when you were supposed to get out.

I don't know. Maybe it's just me, but I have this strange idea that when you treat your kids with less respect than criminals get, you're just setting yourself up for problems.

Comments

[l33tminion]

What a horrible, self-righteous, arrogant git. I'm glad his children succeeded in spite of him. And now he's advising others to do the same, probably to assure himself that his "too harsh" methods were correct.

[leora.livejournal.com]

His son doesn't sound successful to me. He works six days a week for long hours at backbreaking work... that's success? Does he even know how to relax and enjoy life? Is he going to burn himself out within a decade? What will he fall back on when his body fails him? Being able to work to accomplish the goals you set for yourself is important, but so is having goals beyond just work. It sounds like he put so much emphasis on the need for work, that his children's self-esteem got tied to being able to work. Work isn't in and of itself a value - it's what it accomplishes that is. I've known workaholics, and it's not a pretty picture.

[l33tminion]

Agreed.