Taken from asperger

[conuly]

I can safely say I'm disgusted.

Sure, you teach the kid to do something "because I said so". And as soon as you're not around to boss them - or they're old enough to move out, they won't do it anymore. Alternatively, you end up with a kid like me, who will never do something for that reason, because "that's not a reason". Sure, you punish your kid... and then you forget about them? Prisoners in jails aren't expected to stay there indefinitely because, well, we forgot when you were supposed to get out.

I don't know. Maybe it's just me, but I have this strange idea that when you treat your kids with less respect than criminals get, you're just setting yourself up for problems.

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[conuly]

Here's something else. As a child, people who tried that nonsensical line on me automatically got booted into my "I don't trust you" list. They could've beaten the crap out of me, and I wouldn't've done a thing they said.

This is either because I was a stubborn little kid, or because I don't like listening to stupid people (which is exactly what I thought of people who wouldn't explain things), or simply as a matter of principle, but it was the absolute worst thing to say to me. Ever.

Most of the kids this parent is talking about have ADD or ADHD. Many, many kids with ADD exhibit spectrum traits - and from the people I'm talking to on asperger, my reaction towards "Because I said so" is typical.

So advice which I consider wrong for any parent is likely to be doubly wrong for these kids.