I don't get it.

[conuly]

What is it about asperger that attracts the trolls? We don't even get good trolls - this is the shittiest trolling I've ever seen! Where's the drama? The entertainment? The moderators?

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[eh1steve.livejournal.com]

The problem is that it's a little hard to explain in terms the average person can understand why it's a problem. Aspies are generally nice people to begin with. The problem is that niceness isn't a particularly good thing in our world if you want to have a lot of friends and get along well. People don't decide if they want to like you based on how nice you are to them; they decide based on things like your tone of voice and your eye contact for the most part. In all honesty, people treat each other really crappy. There are a lot of rules to it too and the average aspie doesn't have a very easy time learning the right way to be terrible to another person. This is why we're stuck at home.

[yuki-onna.livejournal.com]

Ok, but I still don't understand. You're telling me that they are too smart and nice for people to deal with? That doesn't make sense to me. That site says they are like the aliens from Third Rock from the Sun. This doesn't help either. I'm having a hard time understanding this--and I'm TRYING to understand because I want to know. Trolls don't care--and things they don't understand set them off especially.

[eh1steve.livejournal.com]

I'm saying that's usually the way things start. I'm not saying it stays that way or that's all there is to it.

The eye contact thing alone is something I had to explain to someone recently. I didn't realize eye contact was such a big deal until I was about sixteen years old. I had just been diagnosed and I was reading about AS when I figured it out. What I learned is that people will make judgments about you based on things like eye contact and body language. Since I didn't naturally make eye contact with people when I was talking to them, they tended to assume I was untrustworthy and they wouldn't want anything to do with me.

My body language is also poor. I tend to be very literal, which means sometimes people think I mean things I really don't. I learn a bit differently than other people do, which made school more difficult than it should have been. It's hard for me to engage in what people refer to as "small talk." I'm not very good at "reading between the lines," so I sometimes make people mad without knowing it quick enough.

All this stuff can make it hard to make friends. If you have a harder time making friends, it's harder to get a job or get groups to study with in school. Without friends, social skills suffer, which makes it even harder to make friends later or keep a job if you happen to get one.

Getting any clearer yet?