Why do people say/think this?
Jul. 17th, 2008 11:18 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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I see this every week or so, often twice a week in different journals and comms and fora.
A little boy likes to play with himself, and mom goes "Oh, if only he were a girl, he wouldn't do that!" or "Next one is gonna be a girl, she won't do that!" or "I wasn't prepared for this because, lol, I'm a girl!" or "Why do boys do this????"
Or, alternatively, a little girl likes to play with herself and mom goes "Oh, I didn't know girls did that too!" or "I thought only boys did that???" or "Why is my girl so weird, this is a boy thing, isn't it???"
...and every time people pipe up to say that yes, young girls do touch themselves, and yes, young girls *do* hump things, and yeah, that's one way in which boys and girls are NOT different (I've even heard it said that girls can be *worse* about touching themselves because, unlike boys, they'll keep at it even when the pants are on!), but clearly nobody reads what anybody else has to say, ever, because not a week later and...
"OMG! MY KID IS MASTURBATING AND IT'S TOTALLY A GENDERED PHENOMENON!"
The whole thing makes me wonder if people actually want to get feedback and advice and consolation, or if they really just like to hear themselves type.
I'm usually sympathetic... well, no, but I usually pretend to be sympathetic anyway - but this is starting to wear out my teeth, I'm grinding them so much!
A little boy likes to play with himself, and mom goes "Oh, if only he were a girl, he wouldn't do that!" or "Next one is gonna be a girl, she won't do that!" or "I wasn't prepared for this because, lol, I'm a girl!" or "Why do boys do this????"
Or, alternatively, a little girl likes to play with herself and mom goes "Oh, I didn't know girls did that too!" or "I thought only boys did that???" or "Why is my girl so weird, this is a boy thing, isn't it???"
...and every time people pipe up to say that yes, young girls do touch themselves, and yes, young girls *do* hump things, and yeah, that's one way in which boys and girls are NOT different (I've even heard it said that girls can be *worse* about touching themselves because, unlike boys, they'll keep at it even when the pants are on!), but clearly nobody reads what anybody else has to say, ever, because not a week later and...
"OMG! MY KID IS MASTURBATING AND IT'S TOTALLY A GENDERED PHENOMENON!"
The whole thing makes me wonder if people actually want to get feedback and advice and consolation, or if they really just like to hear themselves type.
I'm usually sympathetic... well, no, but I usually pretend to be sympathetic anyway - but this is starting to wear out my teeth, I'm grinding them so much!
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Date: 2008-07-18 05:11 am (UTC)She changed his diaper and he started playing with himself. A lot of the girls went "Ewwwww," and the leader just shrugged and said "It's his penis he can pull it if he wants to."
I wish everyone were that matter-of-fact.
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Date: 2008-07-18 05:16 am (UTC)*shudders*
It was terrible... terrible I say!
But yeah, usually I'm just glad the little one has something to keep her busy while I'm trying to get my shit (no pun) organized (though now we're working (a lot) on the concept of Private Activities that we do In Our Room). Well, back when she wore diapers. (And you can believe my mother gets some sort of grandmotherly thrill of announcing to all and sundry that HER granddaughter is ALREADY out of diapers EVEN at night. It's nothing to do with any of us, of course, but she still likes to grin and brag.)
Man, that's a tangent. You know, it's dealing with little kids. Sooner or later everything becomes about the potty and them.