So, I have a question...
Dec. 24th, 2005 03:09 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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And a story or two to go along with it!
Ana yesterday fell onto a puzzle in such a way that it hurt her in, ah, a sensitive area. Yeah. Owie!
And she wanted her mom to kiss it, which wasn't happening for reasons that were difficult to explain without giving the wrong idea. Poor Ana kept going "Kiss the 'gina!"
Except, of course, it's not the vagina. That's inside. It's the vulva. So why is it that parents who work to use the correct terms with their kids (often self-righteously, but that's a common thread among all such decisions, I find) go "Well, we use the right term, it's a vagina."? It's not! Vagina! Inside! Vulva! Outside! DUH!
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Also yesterday, while we're sitting in her mom's room, Ana starts clutching her vulva and asking me what it was, so she could say "I touch 'gina!"* (I didn't want to confuse the issue by adding a new term, though I knew better). If this keeps up, we're going to have to find a way to explain about private parts without warping her for life.
*She does this all the time. No, not *that*, asking what something is so she can use the word. "I touch Microwave! I touch ceiling!" It's cute.
I'm not using the normal tag for issues with the kid, because I intend to friends-lock this anyway long before she gets savvy enough to look it up and KILL ME.
Ana yesterday fell onto a puzzle in such a way that it hurt her in, ah, a sensitive area. Yeah. Owie!
And she wanted her mom to kiss it, which wasn't happening for reasons that were difficult to explain without giving the wrong idea. Poor Ana kept going "Kiss the 'gina!"
Except, of course, it's not the vagina. That's inside. It's the vulva. So why is it that parents who work to use the correct terms with their kids (often self-righteously, but that's a common thread among all such decisions, I find) go "Well, we use the right term, it's a vagina."? It's not! Vagina! Inside! Vulva! Outside! DUH!
[Poll #639771]
Also yesterday, while we're sitting in her mom's room, Ana starts clutching her vulva and asking me what it was, so she could say "I touch 'gina!"* (I didn't want to confuse the issue by adding a new term, though I knew better). If this keeps up, we're going to have to find a way to explain about private parts without warping her for life.
*She does this all the time. No, not *that*, asking what something is so she can use the word. "I touch Microwave! I touch ceiling!" It's cute.
I'm not using the normal tag for issues with the kid, because I intend to friends-lock this anyway long before she gets savvy enough to look it up and KILL ME.
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Date: 2005-12-25 02:25 am (UTC)And later you can explain that it's not just because it's to do with wee, which is a rude thing.
If she knows that weeing and pooing in public is rude, she'll accept that touching the wee and poo areas in public is rude.
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Date: 2005-12-25 02:59 am (UTC)I don't know if she knows that. She knows that she can go on the toilet (and if she hasn't had a diaper on, she prefers that nowadays) and she knows she can go in a diaper (and sometimes she'll still say "I want diaper on!" when she means she has to go, but I don't know how... advanced... her understanding is on the whole subject.