Taken from asperger

[conuly]

I can safely say I'm disgusted.

Sure, you teach the kid to do something "because I said so". And as soon as you're not around to boss them - or they're old enough to move out, they won't do it anymore. Alternatively, you end up with a kid like me, who will never do something for that reason, because "that's not a reason". Sure, you punish your kid... and then you forget about them? Prisoners in jails aren't expected to stay there indefinitely because, well, we forgot when you were supposed to get out.

I don't know. Maybe it's just me, but I have this strange idea that when you treat your kids with less respect than criminals get, you're just setting yourself up for problems.

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[kibbles.livejournal.com]

Well, then, it's a good thing I am not raising your children, and you aren't raising mine.

I thought because I said so was a horrible thing, until I had to use it. I also thought I would always be able to breastfeed, that my children would be doing x, y, z at certain times, and I would say and do certain things. But then reality set in and I realized that flexibility was key.

Your children may do better differently, in fact, even my three children have different styles of dealing with different issues.

[conuly]

Well, if you'd tried to raise me, I can guarantee you would've had the same problems my parents had - which involved a lot of my yelling, screaming, hitting, biting, and generally fighting against being treated as though I was stupid.

Your kids? Aren't stupid. At least, I assume they aren't from what you've said. What questions are so hard to explain that you cannot answer them?