Yes! My mother told me that too when I was having my "nobody loves me" phase. And she was right. *nods* I don't know why, but it just makes me happy that other mothers say this too.
As for the original post... I can't agree with this guy's standards at all, but I do agree that he has a right to hold them. What I find bothersome is how he objectifies the woman by a) using ebay instead of a dating site or whatever, and b) addressing her parents as if she was just an inanimate thing owned by them.
People with that lifestyle would consider it normal and respectful to go through the parents. IT wouldn't be objectifying her as much as it would be respect for her and the family.
Reminds me of a friend of mine. HE met his fiancee once, and still doesn't know where she lives exactly (just London). I dont think he'll get to know her directly until after they wed.
It's just not spoken about, I don't think.
And the ebay thing isn't so much objectifying I think as publicity. People do wacky stuff like this all the time just to get attention for their cause. :D
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Date: 2005-02-20 11:41 pm (UTC)There's a lid to every pot, mom always said.
Better they find each other than they wind up with the wrong sort of person, making each other miserable.
There are people who would hate my life. It's a good thing they aren't living it, then.
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Date: 2005-02-21 04:19 am (UTC)Yes! My mother told me that too when I was having my "nobody loves me" phase. And she was right. *nods* I don't know why, but it just makes me happy that other mothers say this too.
As for the original post... I can't agree with this guy's standards at all, but I do agree that he has a right to hold them. What I find bothersome is how he objectifies the woman by a) using ebay instead of a dating site or whatever, and b) addressing her parents as if she was just an inanimate thing owned by them.
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Date: 2005-02-21 05:02 am (UTC)Reminds me of a friend of mine. HE met his fiancee once, and still doesn't know where she lives exactly (just London). I dont think he'll get to know her directly until after they wed.
It's just not spoken about, I don't think.
And the ebay thing isn't so much objectifying I think as publicity. People do wacky stuff like this all the time just to get attention for their cause. :D
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Date: 2005-02-21 12:13 pm (UTC)He specified wanting a Christian lady with Christian values. You can't get much more Christian than that, can you?