This is what I get for reading my friend of list...

[conuly]

The amount of misinformation contained here is scary.

It is perfectly natural to not masturbate. Some people just don't. And, of course, it's perfectly natural to masturbate, and to want to - it will not make you go blind, grow hair, or get pimples. I'm a bit wary of searching for a link to prove that a lack of masturbation isn't connected to a frequency of wet dreams (don't want to find nothing but porn!) but I'm 93% confident that I am correct in that statement.

Nobody *has* to masturbate. You won't die if you don't. It's just that most people prefer to than to not.

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[stejcruetekie.livejournal.com]

The first comment in that posting is rather stupid. However, the guys arguing that wet dreams and masturbation have a direct correlation are 100% correct. We're speaking from personal experience here (something you girls don't have). Sure, it may be true that technically/clinically speaking there's not a direct correlation. But the fact is that for the majority of the guys the majority of the time, there IS a direct correlation. Certainly that's been the case with every guy I've ever talked to about it.

I can't speak for girls - I'm not one, and very few websites even mention that girls have wetdreams. I do wish that you girls would stop trying to speak of something you know nothing about.

The "build up" theory? Maybe it's clinically incorrect - but it sure *feels* true. You can feel it building up over time, you can feel it released afterwards. And there's significantly more sperm after a week than after a day.

[conuly]

I do wish that you girls would stop trying to speak of something you know nothing about.

But I *do* know something about this. I educate myself. I read medical information. I don't just make stuff up.

The "build up" theory? Maybe it's clinically incorrect - but it sure *feels* true.

But it's not true. And it's wrong to act like it is just because it "feels" true. It feels true and obvious that the sun is what moves around the earth, but it's not true and there's no need to spread that misinformation.

[marveen.livejournal.com]

I admit that I haven't done EXTENSIVE research on it, but my understanding was that while the majority of "sex drive" urges are mental/sociological (how many times have we heard about someone wondering how "normal" they are after finding out that they masturbate less than a quarter the amount that others do?), some of the phenomena of nocturnal orgasms are produced by the fact that the nerves involved "want" to fire.

Thus accounting for the "build up" feeling, which would then have nothing to do with sperm or ejaculate either one.

[stejcruetekie.livejournal.com]

And what is it that makes the nerves "want" to fire? Are they more inclined to "want" to fire if they haven't fired in awhile? If so, that would be build up. Perhaps not build up of sperm, but a buildup of something.

[conuly]

I didn't deny that an increase in sexual tension would lead to more nocturnal emissions, though - simply that the idea espoused in that thread was wrong.

[marveen.livejournal.com]

Are they more inclined to "want" to fire if they haven't fired in awhile?

That was what I seem to recall, but I can't find the book I got it from to refresh my memory. (And you know as well as I do that Googling anything about penile nerves, orgasms and ejaculation is going to net you roughly seventeen thousand results, assaying out at fifty percent pr0n sites and forty-five percent Viagra ads, with a small but obtrusive percentage of "herbal enhancement product" listings.)

[ladytalon.livejournal.com]

I do wish that you girls would stop trying to speak of something you know nothing about.

Just because we don't experience ejaculation doesn't mean we know "nothing" about it. As Conuly said, some of us actually read about it, whether official studies or simply personal accounts. And some of us have been in relationships for good lengths of time--I think that sleeping with a guy for years allows me some insight into how it all works.

As I understand it, based on a scientific study I read (and my own experience), it's true for some men that when they deny themselves for a long period of time and then give in, the ejaculate tends to be greater in volume. However, that is not due to a buildup of material, as Conuly has said; it's true for women, too, that we'll often spasm harder after prolonged periods of abstinence. And when abstaining, sexual dreams (feminine wet dreams) are more common, too.

So now, perhaps, you can speak for girls, at least in a general way. Such is the wonder of communication and research.

[adiva_calandia]

It surprises me that there isn't much info on female wet dreams. Female sexuality has become so much more open in recent years. . . . Anyway, I haven't experienced one (so far as I can tell) but I know it happens.