I thought it was fairly clear...
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But since some people seem to have a problem with it, does anybody have suggestions for my disclaimer to make it more obvious?
I am mildly autistic. I only bring this up because sometimes I manage to unintentionally offend people. If this happens, I would appreciate it if you could explain what I said, exactly, that upset you, and, if possible, why. Sometimes I do mean to offend, just like everyone else, but most of the time it's an accident caused by misunderstanding. If you can't do that, please don't mention that I was rude or tactless, because this causes me a lot of unneeded stress, and will likely lead to an angry post about you in my livejournal. And yes, this IS important, despite what you think... otherwise I'll keep blindly upsetting you because I don't know any better.
The whole point of it is to (hopefully) get people to reconsider when they're upset and not just flip out. That just ends badly. I'd rather they tell me why they're upset, because 90% of the time it's a misunderstanding, which can't be cleared up unless I know why they're upset. I thought it made sense that I wasn't dodging responsibility for my actions, but just in case....
Edits, anybody?
I am mildly autistic. I only bring this up because sometimes I manage to unintentionally offend people. If this happens, I would appreciate it if you could explain what I said, exactly, that upset you, and, if possible, why. Sometimes I do mean to offend, just like everyone else, but most of the time it's an accident caused by misunderstanding. If you can't do that, please don't mention that I was rude or tactless, because this causes me a lot of unneeded stress, and will likely lead to an angry post about you in my livejournal. And yes, this IS important, despite what you think... otherwise I'll keep blindly upsetting you because I don't know any better.
The whole point of it is to (hopefully) get people to reconsider when they're upset and not just flip out. That just ends badly. I'd rather they tell me why they're upset, because 90% of the time it's a misunderstanding, which can't be cleared up unless I know why they're upset. I thought it made sense that I wasn't dodging responsibility for my actions, but just in case....
Edits, anybody?
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Date: 2004-09-28 01:21 pm (UTC)Hm, is there a way to make that point even clearer? Sorry I can't think of a good way right now, but I'll think of it myself and get back to it if I get an idea. Maybe split it up into two sentences, like "Occasionally I do mean to offend, just like everyone else, but it's distinct and entirely different. Most of the time the offense is an accident caused by misunderstanding."
I think, though, that the people who really get whiny about it are the ones who either make excuses for themselves all the time or are convinced that everyone else just makes excuses. It's good that you're not saying, "I'm this way. I'm not changing, so just deal with it." You're pretty clear that you don't mean to cause trouble and want to know if something you say has offended someone and how you might remedy it.