I thought it was fairly clear...
Sep. 27th, 2004 10:43 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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But since some people seem to have a problem with it, does anybody have suggestions for my disclaimer to make it more obvious?
I am mildly autistic. I only bring this up because sometimes I manage to unintentionally offend people. If this happens, I would appreciate it if you could explain what I said, exactly, that upset you, and, if possible, why. Sometimes I do mean to offend, just like everyone else, but most of the time it's an accident caused by misunderstanding. If you can't do that, please don't mention that I was rude or tactless, because this causes me a lot of unneeded stress, and will likely lead to an angry post about you in my livejournal. And yes, this IS important, despite what you think... otherwise I'll keep blindly upsetting you because I don't know any better.
The whole point of it is to (hopefully) get people to reconsider when they're upset and not just flip out. That just ends badly. I'd rather they tell me why they're upset, because 90% of the time it's a misunderstanding, which can't be cleared up unless I know why they're upset. I thought it made sense that I wasn't dodging responsibility for my actions, but just in case....
Edits, anybody?
I am mildly autistic. I only bring this up because sometimes I manage to unintentionally offend people. If this happens, I would appreciate it if you could explain what I said, exactly, that upset you, and, if possible, why. Sometimes I do mean to offend, just like everyone else, but most of the time it's an accident caused by misunderstanding. If you can't do that, please don't mention that I was rude or tactless, because this causes me a lot of unneeded stress, and will likely lead to an angry post about you in my livejournal. And yes, this IS important, despite what you think... otherwise I'll keep blindly upsetting you because I don't know any better.
The whole point of it is to (hopefully) get people to reconsider when they're upset and not just flip out. That just ends badly. I'd rather they tell me why they're upset, because 90% of the time it's a misunderstanding, which can't be cleared up unless I know why they're upset. I thought it made sense that I wasn't dodging responsibility for my actions, but just in case....
Edits, anybody?
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Date: 2004-09-28 10:43 am (UTC)That's what my diagnosis says! You spelled it right, though I think it's better to put an 's after the asperger.
It's supposed to only be kids that have it, but the kids grow up, and become adults, and they still have it, right?
Definitely. You don't grow out of being autistic/aspie. Anybody who says otherwise is wrong, end of story.
It just mainly causes social misunderstandings, because his mind doesn't think the same way other people's minds do, and people forget that, and talk to him like normal, and there'll be something they said that would seem like normal to someone else, but to him, makes absolutely no sense.
Right, and wrong. I mean, right on the social misunderstandings, but wrong on "that's just what it is". Autism/AS is connected to a lot of "comorbid conditions" including (but not limited to) auditory processing disorders, scotopic sensitivity (messes with how you see things), hypersensitivity, occasionally hyposensitivity, dyspraxia (clumsiness), sensory integration disorder, dyscalula (like dyslexia for math. Not that common, but more common with aspies than with the general population), faceblindness, obsessive compulsive disorder, synesthesia (confusing the senses), problems with spatial relations, speech disorders...
You don't have to fit all those categories to be aspie/autistic, but I think most fit in at least one.