Some things which I DO NOT LIKE in communities

[conuly]

Disabling comments because you're scared of discussion. That's rude.

Deleting another person's post because YOU think that THEY do not like the way conversation is going even though THEY have not said anything of the sort... I don't even understand this. Let THEM delete THEIR own post... or admit that YOU are the one with a problem.

That is all.

Edit:

*giggles* I was pissed at something that happened in a comm I'm in. I'm not pissed anymore (yay) although I stand by the less inflammatory form of my statements (which runs "I disagree with...."). I really don't hold these statements for personal journals, just communities. So my view is "if you don't like comments on a post in your community, you freeze the threads or delete the comments, you don't delete the post unless you're the person who made it, and since it's a community, not a personal journal, you don't announce policy changes (or nonchanges) without giving any room for discussion". Because those are communities. Not journals.

Comments

[deceptica]

Can't say I've ever experienced the second one, but I kind of agree with the first one. I wouldn't exactly call it rude though, just strange.

I understand that sometimes you might not want to discuss things with people, but why bring them up in the first place then? It becomes even more strange when it's a friends only post... it's like saying: Hey, I want all of you to know this, but don't you dare mentioning it to me, trying to comfort me or talk to me about this in any way. Wha?

[oloriel.livejournal.com]

Hmmm... being someone who often just wouldn't know what to say but would feel compelled to say something just to show I care, I'm sometimes downright relieved when a particularily shattering, depressed or happy post has the comment function disabled... but that may just be me.
And bringing them up... well, it's a LiveJournal, so maybe I want to make something that is important to my life known without having to go further into it. Of course, you might make it private, then, but maybe people just want to share the pain/ joy/ whatever... without having to discuss. I don't do this myself, but I sort of understand it...

The second... well, I've never yet encountered that, either.

[push-the-limits.livejournal.com]

I'm glad *someone* understands. I've done both, simply because I do not want ANY drama on my journal. I get enough of it from the message board I go to. If someone wants to RESPECTFULLY disagree with me and discuss it, that's fine, but once they start personally insulting me on my journal, I'm going to delete it. I don't want that trash on my journal.

As for disabling comments, I've done that for exactly the reasons you mentioned.

If you don't like the way someone keeps their journal, I would suggest either dealing with it, or taking them off of your list.

Personally...I don't pay $35/year ($10 for the extra icons) to have people tell me how to run my own journal.

No offense...that's just my take on the subject.

[conuly]

No, I'm pissed at the mod of a comm. Somebody posted a question which led to an interesting, but polite discussion - and the mod deleted the question WITHOUT asking the original poster and posted her reason WITHOUT allowing comments. My belief is that it's not YOUR comm like it's your journal, it belongs to the people in it.

[conuly]

*hugs* I'm sorry. I was ranting about something in a comm, it never occured to me that people would thing "personal journal" when reading it. Journals aren't, and shouldn't be, like comms. Because they're run by individuals, not groups of people, and I do think a community's maintainer's should be just added, the real rules and all decided by the community members.

[conuly]

Nah, I'm sorry. I meant in communities, but failed to specify that. Sorry.

[eofs.livejournal.com]

I don't think she's saying that they shouldn't be allowed to do it, just that she doesn't understand why they do it.

[push-the-limits.livejournal.com]

I disagree.

[eofs.livejournal.com]

With what do you disagree?

[push-the-limits.livejournal.com]

Never mind, it's taken care of. I just thought she meant journals in general, I didn't know she was talking about communities. I disagreed with what you said about her saying that it shouldn't be done. I know you said not "allowed," but I got the feeling she thought it shouldn't be done at all in a personal journal. Misunderstanding on my part.

[deceptica]

Yes, that's exactly what I was saying (though I can now understand it at least a little after reading oloriel's reply). I'm not sure where the interpretation that I want to tell people how to run their journals came from...

[conuly]

Well, that IS my view on how to run communities. Not journals. I should've been more clear.

(And if I really don't like a comm, I leave, after bringing this up to the mod. I wasn't even pissed enough to do that, just pissed enough to whine in my journal. In reality, it was a bit of a non-event)

[conuly]

*giggles* No, I meant "don't disable comments in communities" and forgot that people might think I meant journals. I can't believe that didn't occur to me, but it really didn't.