Mama Cat came up and was being aggressively affectionate

[conuly]

Which was unusual for her! Sitting in my lap, nuzzling me, nuzzling my desk, headbutting, kneading - the works.

Not that she's unfriendly, but I'm not her person.

You can imagine my relief when I got up and she ran downstairs to her food dish. Mystery solved!

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Comments

[author_by_night]

Facebook, the many friend networks we’ve made along our paths through life converge and create a unique kind of emotional infrastructure that’s impossible for some people to fully separate from, because it means cutting off the only remaining ties to parts of their pasts, or to previous places they have lived, and even to some family members and friends. To many of the Facebook users you leave behind, walking away from Facebook will send a message that you don’t want to cultivate ties with them — because for many people, Facebook is the only place those ties can be cultivated.

Yep.

And the thing is... people don't keep in mind that not everyone has their family and friends within a block of each other. I know a lot of people like that, but then you have people like me, who don't live anywhere near most of their friends and family. Or my friend whose parents and in-laws live across the country - facebook is how they know what's going on with their granddaughters.

Granted, we all managed before Facebook, it was just harder. My cousin also lives far away from everyone, and when people have said "it's so hard to stay in touch with you, you're not on social media", she'll tell them that it's SUPPOSED to be hard. So that's a point to consider. But it's also how I communicate with some groups, both virtual and community. And how I post things to my work facebook.

But here's another point to consider: Aside from the parts of Facebook that are useful (whatever useful is to the individual), how productive is it, really? How happy does it make you feel? When I think about it, I still don't interact THAT much with my long distance people. One of them is always posting pictures of herself in the city she lives in. That's it. I know she lives in a city, like millions of people across the globe. Some friends only post publicly, and they're not always on subjects I want my entire feed to see me commenting on. I sometimes get frustrated when I feel my posts are ignored, or I comment on someone's political post and they get upset because I didn't simply add to the echo chamber, even when I'm AGREEING WITH THEM. That's happened before. So I unfollow those people, because I refuse to comment if I'm just supposed to say "I agree" in creepy monotone, except... what's the point in even keeping them friended if I don't read their posts anymore? Moreover, I'd say most of my time on Facebook is looking for something that I CAN add to, CAN enjoy, CAN engage with someone in.

I just said this the other day (on Facebook, because where else?): Really, if Mark Zuckerberg's direction was planned, he's a genius con artist. Because Facebook is essentially a con. It draws people in, gives them reason after reason to stay, so that even when they know they're not totally content with things anymore, they stay because it's either where everything is, or where they THINK everything is. So well done if this was his plan, because man, it worked.

[conuly]

Moreover, I'd say most of my time on Facebook is looking for something that I CAN add to, CAN enjoy, CAN engage with someone in.

Yes, this.

I just said this the other day (on Facebook, because where else?)

...here?

So well done if this was his plan, because man, it worked.

It's not going to work forever, though.

[firecat]

I don't think we all did manage before FB. Isolation can kill.

[conuly]

True, but there's lots of studies suggesting that FB doesn't reduce isolation and can even increase loneliness in isolated people.