Went to a performance today with Eva

[conuly]

Seven young adults telling their life stories in more or less chronological order - so we switched from one to the other as each year went by rather than staying with them the whole way through. I love the New Victory. Seriously.

Anyway, Eva spent a good deal of the show fiddling with the contents of her change purse (noisy), nudging the back of the chair in front of her (that seat was empty, but it's still disruptive to the people on either side), kicking the floor (both). I, consequently, spent a lot of time tapping her leg and shaking my head at her. When the lights came on, I took advantage of the noise to let her in on something she clearly didn't know yet - it might be easier to be involved in something if you move around, but it makes other people think you're not interested, and it's often disruptive. You gotta find a way to stim unobtrusively... or, barring that, at least quietly if you're in a theater.

Comments

[novel_machinist]

I dunno if this is an option, but I've seen people giving their little ones knitting or crocheting stuff to fiddle with. I know adults who still knit as a way to keep the fidgets down.

[conuly]

She'd have to learn to crochet first....