Some people might want to be warned, is the word "triggering"?

[conuly]

First part of the story

Second part of the story

Frankly, the whole story is disgusting me, and I don't have any brainwashing in my past.

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[conuly]

No, they do things such as seeking counselling and learnign how to work together. It can be done.

Not all people respond to counseling. What if you want to work through the problems, but your partner doesn't? Then what?

A properly function family would be having everyone loving everyone. That's what family is supposed to do.
And if it doesn't, a good option is ending it. You can't force love. In fact, I'll say that basing your family in love is a BAD idea. Base it on something realistic, like the ability to pay the bills or not drive each other insane. Too many people base marriage on "love", and then find out later that love doesn't last.

These are things that should be found out before you decide to marry someone

No doubt, but let's try to work in the real world, where people make mistakes.

Perhaps I have it easy, since I am by nature a very compromising person. I'm not selfish, I don't always need my way. I personally think there's always a way to work things out, if people compromise and aren't selfish.

I think you are mistaken. Some problems are so big, some people can't compromise. It'd be nice, but that's not true for everybody.

I was saying that I've never heard anyone prefer a divorced family over a happy non-divorced family - not that they didn't prefer divorced over their tensioned family.

And I'd rather my dad weren't dead, but, again, we're constrained to the world of mistakes and accidents.

[priyatelka.livejournal.com]

Trying *hard* to stay out of this one...just wanted to say that "we're constrained to the world of mistakes and accidents" is a great line...can I quote you?

[conuly]

Sure thing.