Bitchfight in parenting101

[conuly]

As we all know, pacifiers can lead to nipple confusion and interfere with the nursing relationship. They also can contribute to ear infections and cause parents to pay less attention to a child (since the child is always quiet). Somehow, this all blew up. Everywhere.

I wouldn't mind, really, except I post on that community, and, as most people realize, I'm never having kids. Or at least, probably never. I give a little leeway for insanity. And then, there's this one idiot... First saying "if you're not going to breastfeed, why do you have breasts?" And then, when I mention that I, personally, am not having kids, 1. demanding to know why I'm reading the posts there and 2. repeating the asinine question.

*rolls her eyes* Sorry, I wasn't aware that this was a closed community. OH CRAP! It's not!

And of course, she said "breasts aren't for men to play with" Well, neither are hands, but.... At any rate, nobody plays with my breasts, they'd hurt too much. NOT that it's any of her fucking business.

Can you tell I'm pissed? And yet, she's STILL better, in my view, than the one who said she couldn't "think of nothing more unnatural than breastfeeding". Um, excuse me? What about FORMULA feeding? Television? Computers? Condoms? Light bulbs? Books? Clothing? Shoes?

*sighs*

I fear for the world.

Comments

[push-the-limits.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I did try. With my first one, he screamed and screamed all night long, and I couldn't figure out why he wouldn't stop...I was so exasperated, that I finally got out the breast pump to see if I could just give him a bottle, but I pumped and pumped, and only a few drops came out.

After being up all day and all night, I finally had to have my mom go to the store at 5am to get some formula. I still tried after that, and still, nothing. To this day I don't know why, but both of my kids were formula babies, and both are very healthy.

[conuly]

If you don't mind my pre-emptive advice, you might try talking to a lactation consultant next time (if there is a next time). It's possible that it was a solvable problem. Quite a few people who can't pump nevertheless have an adaquate milk supply. It happens.

Or you might not bother. I think it's important to breastfeed, and I think it's the best thing for infants, but it's not the end all and be all of parenting. Let's try for a little perspective.

Now, if milk banks were more prevalent, I'd be thrilled. But that's a different issue.

[push-the-limits.livejournal.com]

There won't be a next time, I had a hysterectomy 2 months ago. :)

[conuly]

I don't know if that's "well, that's good" or "oh, too bad", so please just insert the appropriate sentiment. I truly do mean it, whichever it is.