Well, this is good news!

[conuly]

Next time somebody talks to you about how very many parents of autistic children end up getting divorced because They Just Can't Handle It!, you can tell them they're wrong! Parents of autistic kids are no more likely to divorce than anybody else! This is wonderful!

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[steorra]

Thanks for this (as for many of the other interesting articles you post; but this one seems particularly likely to be useful information).

[conuly]

Well, you're welcome :)

[lady-angelina.livejournal.com]

Good news, indeed. Because really... blaming divorces on the kids that can't really help what they are is just unbelievably unfair. >.< Why don't these parents that want to blame their own kids just look themselves in the mirror and realize that hey, the problem is actually between themselves and their spouses, and not on their children?

[leora.livejournal.com]

This seems connected to a general annoying trait I've noticed in people.

People seem so quick and willing to blame any problem on anything different. A relationship breaks up, oh that happens. A poly relationship breaks up, it's because they're poly. Someone gets sick, oh that happens. Someone who has some lifestyle choice you disagree with gets sick, oh it's because of that lifestyle choice (which lifestyle choice varies)[1].

I'm glad to see this one statistically studied, even though I suspect people will still try to cling to blaming anything different in individual cases. I've tried presenting evidence when people do this sort of thing before, and they always come back to, but in this specific case, how can you know it wasn't this thing that I dislike?

*curls up in a corner and sighs*

[1] For me personally, I've had my vegetarianism and my not drinking of water blamed. Doctors and evidence seem to show neither to be an issue. What's funny is that my diet may have been an issue, but if so, it's my not eating enough salt that is the most likely contributing factor, and the people who complain about my diet ~never~ pick on that.

[conuly]

You don't drink water? That IS odd, though water is hardly the only way to be hydrated. If you weren't getting enough liquid you wouldn't get "sick", you'd be obviously dehydrated so everybody would know.

[leora.livejournal.com]

Childhood issues. It's very easy to cause someone to be unwilling to consume something if you traumatize them when they are very young.

Yes, it's weird. It's also a bit of a nuisance. And I could try to get over it. But I've decided that I prefer accommodating it to trying to get over it. And I will become sick to my stomach if I drink water. Yes, this is clearly psychosomatic; I know that. It still is unpleasant.

It did take me some time to settle onto a healthy option, but tea is very healthful. And not drinking water has actually been a very common thing for humans to do in many societies, since water was often not safe to drink.

I do dehydrate easily, which is likely related to my very low blood pressure. But it's not because I don't drink water. And I am more likely to dehydrate due to lack of salt than lack of fluids. Anyhow, I drink plenty of tea (and sometimes other things). And I drink plenty of tisanes (herbal "teas"). And I have done research into the effects of this, which is why I don't appreciate people who come by with no research and just their personal feelings that this is weird and thus must be bad. Show me a study and I'll consider it. Tell me you have concluded out of your own aversion to the notion that this must be my problem and I will be annoyed.

[conuly]

Well, everybody is convinced they must know better.

[xmorningxrosex.livejournal.com]

Did you see that episode of Parenthood the other night? I've never seen the show before, but happened to flip by when they started talking about a fundraiser for autism.

[conuly]

I don't really watch that much TV.

[xmorningxrosex.livejournal.com]

Ah, it featured Autism Speaks (which made me think of your many rants here!), and when these parents should tell their young son that he was the reason they were doing the fundraiser walk.

[conuly]

Every one of those rants is richly deserved.