You know, I say "Don't talk to me about context", and that's what people try to do.

[conuly]

So let's say this again.

There is no appropriate context for saying, in front of your child, that you've thought of killing her.

This is not up for debate.

There is no appropriate context for saying, in front of your child, that you've thought of killing her.

No, not even if it was to be a murder-suicide instead of a straight murder.

There is no appropriate context for saying, in front of your child, that you've thought of killing her.

No, not even if it was "really scary" to you.

It's just wrong.

There is no context that makes this okay. And I'm not about to discuss that point as though there is such a context.

Because there isn't.

Now, you want to argue if it's ever all right to say "I'm so overwhelmed, life would be easier if..." or "Man, my kid is being such a brat, I can't take it!" - do that with each other.

But I am dead serious here. If I thought anybody I knew would ever say such disgusting things in front of their children - I would have to stop talking to them. Now. Because there is absolutely no context that makes that right.

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[conuly]

Yeah, I post about what my nieces can do. You know why? Because I'm proud of them for working hard to do new things. And I'm sure you're proud when your kids work hard and figure out how to do something new - even if it's something you clearly think they ought to have done sooner. This is not because I figure I'm so important, but because they are important to me. (Anyway, what the fuck am I supposed to do, sit here and whine that Evangeline isn't a nuclear physicist yet, or that Angelique isn't running marathons? Or not mention them at all? I spend all day with them! LOL, I'm with them right now, despite my best efforts to have Jenn stay home while I stayed in bed.)

As for judgmental - yeah, maybe. I think that feeding soda to your kids at every meal and betweentimes is really a bad idea, and that letting your kids play in traffic is monumentally neglectful, and that telling people - any people, but especially your children - that you've contemplated killing them is, well, a bit mean. (I don't think you have to be a parent to come to these conclusions.) Luckily for me, judging others isn't against my moral code. I don't usually call people out for being judgmental, because I figure - hey! Everybody does it! And if I did judge others for judging, I suppose I would be a bit hypocritical. Man, do I ever hate hypocrisy.

I know a few autistic parents. Rather like them. Know a few non-autistic parents of autistic children - like 'em too. Wouldn't like them very much if they were mean to their kids, though. Weird thing - I like people to be nice to children, or at least kinda neutral.