Date: 2007-03-29 03:42 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] conuly
Have I ever sent you to read what [livejournal.com profile] wakasplat's written? She's pretty obviously autistic - doesn't speak and so on - so what she says might be useful to you, stuff about how she lives and whatnot. (And it took me forever to realize that people I thought of as four separate entities, because they had four separate websites, were all her!) Her main blog is at this clicky. And she uses another form of communication, I believe, which might, again, be useful to you. But I don't know if she's replying to comments right now, so you might end up having to search a bit.

That said, and I know you don't want to hear it anymore than anybody does, because it's the harder way for sure - in the long run, there's no profit to moving to be like the rest of the world. The only way progress is made in any area is that we force the rest of the world to come to us (whomever us happens to be in any given situation). You can come up with your own various analogies, right?

Having him wear his vest when out and about would make it easier for him to function in a way that's useful to you and the world. That's not an excuse - you're saying "I know this is hard, and I'm making it easier for him to manage" not "I know this is hard, and I'm going to avoid having to ever deal with it".

As for "he could get teased for it"... *sighs* Speaking as somebody who's a lot less visible here - he's going to get teased no matter what. And that fucking sucks, because people shouldn't act like that. But, like I said before, I don't see that there's a profit in caving to bullies. If somebody insults your kids for their background, for their family, you don't tell them to hide it - you're proud of them for standing up for themselves, I've seen it. This isn't different in any qualitative way.

But it's midnight here. I can't even spell correctly, there's typos all over everything :( I'll be able to post more coherantly (and, I hope, politely) tomorrow.
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