Hypothetical question....

[conuly]

Is it better to change your appearance, and then feel better about yourself, or to work on your self-image and worry about your appearance later (if at all)?

I know which one I vote for.

Comments

[wodhaund.livejournal.com]

Personally, I find that a change in my appearance goes a long way toward encouraging me to change my self-image, even if I only make a small change.

For example, I may spend some extra time "prettying myself up", whether that be a new haircut, a different style of clothing, what have you. When I find I like it, and I like how I feel like that, I make an effort to upkeep that appearance, and eventually find that even on days when I lapse and bum around, I still feel like I look good, simply because I've put effort into myself in the past, and because I think everyone deserves an "off" day.

...Does that make sense?

[gingembre.livejournal.com]

That absolutely makes sense. If you have one or two little things that just make you feel *really good* (regardless of whether anyone else really likes them or not) it can brighten up your whole outlook.

On the other hand, I definitely agree with the above comments - it is all about moderation. If you hate the size of your boobs that does NOT mean a boob job is the de facto solution. I think then working with some *other* part that you DO like is a good start there.

[wodhaund.livejournal.com]

Well, here's what I think about that.

If I hate my boobs, why is it that I hate them? If they're too small, well, I can wear a padded bra. If they're too large, why are they too large? Am I overweight? If I lose a pound, it might not make a difference in my boobs, but if I lose ten, it will, and I'll be healthier as well.

Win win, right?