So, I spent the night over at Jenn's to avoid our lack of heat...

[conuly]

And when I left this morning (neglecting to bring the check I was supposed to bring, of course) I *know* I said bye to 'dul. He didn't hear me, and never locked the door behind me. Now he's mad, saying I never said I was leaving, and I can't stay over anymore.

Let's look at this:

1. I've several times not heard something another person has said. If I say that, I get told by EVERYONE that "just because you don't hear it doesn't mean it doesn't happen". Sometimes I have to endure snide comments about "Connie thinks that if she didn't hear it, it doesn't count". I don't know why there are different standards for me and 'dul.

2. More importantly, he knew I was leaving. If he didn't find out I'd left until noon or later, what was going on? He knew I had to be gone in the morning, didn't it occur to him to check and say "Hm, I wonder if Connie knows she should've left SEVERAL HOURS ago?" or "I wonder if she left and I didn't notice?"

*sighs*

Comments

[gingembre.livejournal.com]

Actually, he was not aware of what your plans were for the morning.

And second, it is *your* responsibility to make sure he locks the door. If you're going down the stairs, he should be right behind you OR have given you VERBAL ASSURANCE that he will, indeed, lock the door behind you. If you got *no verbal response*, why would you assume he heard you? As you yourself pointed out, you get upset if someone does that to you.

There is also a problem with the mess level that you consistently leave behind you. In all the times you've slept over I can't recall more than ONE time where you've folded up the sheets and brought them back upstairs.

[conuly]

You didn't ask me to bring the sheets upstairs. You asked me to bring the dishes up, which I did. The sheets weren't mine anyway, they were mommy's.

As for whether or not I should've waited for a response, I know, and I was pissed at myself when I realized that, right around when I saw I'd forgotten the check. But it is STILL unfair of people to say "you didn't say you were leaving" when, in fact, I did. It is ESPECIALLY unfair for people who weren't even there to deny my statement outright, which is, in fact, what you originally did.

[gingembre.livejournal.com]

Actually, he was not aware of what your plans were for the morning.

And second, it is *your* responsibility to make sure he locks the door. If you're going down the stairs, he should be right behind you OR have given you VERBAL ASSURANCE that he will, indeed, lock the door behind you. If you got *no verbal response*, why would you assume he heard you? As you yourself pointed out, you get upset if someone does that to you.

There is also a problem with the mess level that you consistently leave behind you. In all the times you've slept over I can't recall more than ONE time where you've folded up the sheets and brought them back upstairs.

[conuly]

You didn't ask me to bring the sheets upstairs. You asked me to bring the dishes up, which I did. The sheets weren't mine anyway, they were mommy's.

As for whether or not I should've waited for a response, I know, and I was pissed at myself when I realized that, right around when I saw I'd forgotten the check. But it is STILL unfair of people to say "you didn't say you were leaving" when, in fact, I did. It is ESPECIALLY unfair for people who weren't even there to deny my statement outright, which is, in fact, what you originally did.