Newsflash:

[conuly]

It's very rude to post and then say "Don't comment if you don't agree with me". I agree, it's ruder to call people out on their rudeness, but... oh, look, I never claimed to be polite.

*is very irritated at the world right now*

*and the heat*

Edit: Just out of curiosity, and this is completely unrelated, I swear... does anybody know who the maintainer of hp_theories is? I'd like some sort of statement in there about the rules regarding non-theories.

Comments

[beccak1961.livejournal.com]

I would much rather people comment or tell me they are upset with me, instead of acting like everything is peachy keen, then I read about myself and am getting slammed in some post they make. I much prefer direct communication. The communication might or might not go anywhere. For example, if someone doesn't like me talking about certain things in my journal, they can tell me, I will tell them I am going to continue and they might unfriend me. I'm not saying confronting me will make me stop, but at least I'll know I'm upsetting the person and have the option.
Sorry /end rant
Hit a nerve there on me, I think :)
Besides, I expect my friends to have occasional different views. They aren't my clones after all.

[conuly]

This is in a comm I'm in. It's all about Harry Potter. I'm rather irked.

[beccak1961.livejournal.com]

Ahh... well, I'll just go slink away now :_)

[kibbles.livejournal.com]

If you can't take comments, keep it to your own journal, I think.

In a personal journal I wouldn't mind someone saying that, but in a community? Too bad.

Could be worse, they could turn off comments completely which drives me up a wall.

[conuly]

Could be worse, they could turn off comments completely which drives me up a wall.

Ick, I hate that. Why bother posting in a comm if you don't want replies a'tall?

[peaseblossom03.livejournal.com]

Yeah, totally; if it's a community, sorry man, anything goes. But in your own journal I figure it's your sandbox, your rules.

[conuly]

Except in very rare circumstances, I wouldn't dream of telling people what to do on their own journals. The exceptions are when they ask me for advice.

[scottrossi.livejournal.com]

you've always been polite enough around me, even with some of the half-informed rants i have gone on, or invokations of godwin's law, hahaha. even when you were jihadfully angry, you were still polite! i would say you are polite.

[conuly]

Let's amend the statement: I'm not likely to be polite to people I don't know and who are stupid.

[scottrossi.livejournal.com]

amendment accepted! :D

[mayhemwench.livejournal.com]

You know, that really annoys me too. I mean, if it's formed as a polite question (i.e. Would you mind not commenting if you don't agree with me, please?) it's mildly less annoying, but here's a concept: if people don't want comments, turn off the comments. And if you want comments but don't want to argue with people about it, just ignore the comments disagreeing with you. It's not so hard.

[leora.livejournal.com]

In a community, disallowing comments can often be rude - but you can set them to not be emailed to you. I pretty much agree with the others of - I wouldn't find it rude in someone's personal journal, but I would in a community journal.

[confuddledone.livejournal.com]

Believe it or not, I'm kinda one of the moderators of hp_theories - I filled in for one of them while they were on holiday, and I'm still one now. I agree with the 'Don't comment if you don't agree with me' thing being stupid, and I'd be happy to put a statement in - I'd have to agree it with the other mods, but it should be fine.

I'll also make sure to comment on anyone who does post stuff like that in the comm. Thanks for pointing it out - if you see any more problems with the comm which we don't seem to have noticed, feel free to comment in my personal journal and tell me, and I'll do my best to sort it.

[conuly]

*hugs*

Love and kittens!

[confuddledone.livejournal.com]

*hugs back*

*starts naming her kittens* You can be Fluffball, and you can be Spot...

[conuly]

*smiles*

You know what's really good about this? She deleted all my comments, so she can't even whine that I was ruder because, wow, she has no proof.

I feel gleeful.

[conuly]

I answered her question, but since I don't like her... Do questions count as theories? Iffen they do, I'll hush. Though I am definitely one to tattle on others....

[confuddledone.livejournal.com]

That's a very good question, um... well, technically questions promote discussion (or some of them do), so I think we'll leave that post in there, although I will update the userinfo of the community cos it's not very clear in there that the comm is theory only. However, if she or anyone else posts questions like 'Where can I get good HP merchandise?' that are definitely not theory- or discussion-related, I assure you the post will be deleted.

And don't worry about tattling - if you hadn't pointed either of the posts out, I wouldn't have noticed them! :)

[pne.livejournal.com]

I don't know how to put this, but this kind of thing also bothers me when people agreeing with a person post comments and those disagreeing decide not to do so so as not to confront the person, and the poster gets a skewed view of his readership's attitude.

An example might be posting a picture and getting ten "you look gorgeous!" responses because the seven people thinking "ho-hum, just about average" and the five thinking "good heavens, that girls is ugly... and has no fashion sense, either" decide to hold their peace.

Or someone posting a controversial topic and getting ten replies of "oh, you're so right!" but where eight others who disagree decide not to post because they think the argument will be pointless if the poster is that convinced of his stand on the topic.

In both cases, the "don't comment if you don't agree with me" -- which may be voluntarily adhered to by commenters even if not explicitly requested -- bothers me a little.

[conuly]

I know what you mean. I like people to disagree with me, because I like to argue, but I'm always afraid that people choose not to disagree with me for that very same reason.

[beccak1961.livejournal.com]

I would much rather people comment or tell me they are upset with me, instead of acting like everything is peachy keen, then I read about myself and am getting slammed in some post they make. I much prefer direct communication. The communication might or might not go anywhere. For example, if someone doesn't like me talking about certain things in my journal, they can tell me, I will tell them I am going to continue and they might unfriend me. I'm not saying confronting me will make me stop, but at least I'll know I'm upsetting the person and have the option.
Sorry /end rant
Hit a nerve there on me, I think :)
Besides, I expect my friends to have occasional different views. They aren't my clones after all.

[conuly]

This is in a comm I'm in. It's all about Harry Potter. I'm rather irked.

[beccak1961.livejournal.com]

Ahh... well, I'll just go slink away now :_)

[kibbles.livejournal.com]

If you can't take comments, keep it to your own journal, I think.

In a personal journal I wouldn't mind someone saying that, but in a community? Too bad.

Could be worse, they could turn off comments completely which drives me up a wall.

[conuly]

Could be worse, they could turn off comments completely which drives me up a wall.

Ick, I hate that. Why bother posting in a comm if you don't want replies a'tall?

[peaseblossom03.livejournal.com]

Yeah, totally; if it's a community, sorry man, anything goes. But in your own journal I figure it's your sandbox, your rules.

[conuly]

Except in very rare circumstances, I wouldn't dream of telling people what to do on their own journals. The exceptions are when they ask me for advice.

[scottrossi.livejournal.com]

you've always been polite enough around me, even with some of the half-informed rants i have gone on, or invokations of godwin's law, hahaha. even when you were jihadfully angry, you were still polite! i would say you are polite.

[conuly]

Let's amend the statement: I'm not likely to be polite to people I don't know and who are stupid.

[scottrossi.livejournal.com]

amendment accepted! :D

[mayhemwench.livejournal.com]

You know, that really annoys me too. I mean, if it's formed as a polite question (i.e. Would you mind not commenting if you don't agree with me, please?) it's mildly less annoying, but here's a concept: if people don't want comments, turn off the comments. And if you want comments but don't want to argue with people about it, just ignore the comments disagreeing with you. It's not so hard.

[leora.livejournal.com]

In a community, disallowing comments can often be rude - but you can set them to not be emailed to you. I pretty much agree with the others of - I wouldn't find it rude in someone's personal journal, but I would in a community journal.

[confuddledone.livejournal.com]

Believe it or not, I'm kinda one of the moderators of hp_theories - I filled in for one of them while they were on holiday, and I'm still one now. I agree with the 'Don't comment if you don't agree with me' thing being stupid, and I'd be happy to put a statement in - I'd have to agree it with the other mods, but it should be fine.

I'll also make sure to comment on anyone who does post stuff like that in the comm. Thanks for pointing it out - if you see any more problems with the comm which we don't seem to have noticed, feel free to comment in my personal journal and tell me, and I'll do my best to sort it.

[conuly]

*hugs*

Love and kittens!

[confuddledone.livejournal.com]

*hugs back*

*starts naming her kittens* You can be Fluffball, and you can be Spot...

[conuly]

*smiles*

You know what's really good about this? She deleted all my comments, so she can't even whine that I was ruder because, wow, she has no proof.

I feel gleeful.

[conuly]

I answered her question, but since I don't like her... Do questions count as theories? Iffen they do, I'll hush. Though I am definitely one to tattle on others....

[confuddledone.livejournal.com]

That's a very good question, um... well, technically questions promote discussion (or some of them do), so I think we'll leave that post in there, although I will update the userinfo of the community cos it's not very clear in there that the comm is theory only. However, if she or anyone else posts questions like 'Where can I get good HP merchandise?' that are definitely not theory- or discussion-related, I assure you the post will be deleted.

And don't worry about tattling - if you hadn't pointed either of the posts out, I wouldn't have noticed them! :)

[pne.livejournal.com]

I don't know how to put this, but this kind of thing also bothers me when people agreeing with a person post comments and those disagreeing decide not to do so so as not to confront the person, and the poster gets a skewed view of his readership's attitude.

An example might be posting a picture and getting ten "you look gorgeous!" responses because the seven people thinking "ho-hum, just about average" and the five thinking "good heavens, that girls is ugly... and has no fashion sense, either" decide to hold their peace.

Or someone posting a controversial topic and getting ten replies of "oh, you're so right!" but where eight others who disagree decide not to post because they think the argument will be pointless if the poster is that convinced of his stand on the topic.

In both cases, the "don't comment if you don't agree with me" -- which may be voluntarily adhered to by commenters even if not explicitly requested -- bothers me a little.

[conuly]

I know what you mean. I like people to disagree with me, because I like to argue, but I'm always afraid that people choose not to disagree with me for that very same reason.