World's stupidest discussion.

[conuly]

Really.

And it's ALL MY FAULT.

This one girl keeps telling me that Harry Potter "just isn't gay or bi". For some reason, this is really pissing me off. We know the character isn't gay, because we can read his mind - but that's not proof that he is, in fact, straight. He could easily be bi. I think we need to have more than one crush on a girl before we can accept that as proof that he'll never have a crush on a guy, is all.

That goes for *all* characters, everywhere, in everything. Heck, that even goes for me. As far as I know, I'm straight - but I could be very, very wrong. At 22 (am I that old already?), I'd be a bit surprised, but it's definitely possible.

Back on topic, this conversation would be a lot less stupid if I'd just leave well enough alone and go away from it.

Comments

[kibbles.livejournal.com]

I thought I was bi until my early 20s...

[conuly]

Wait, how do you decide that you're not bi? Do you just stop being attracted to members of *insert sex here*?

[mortaine.livejournal.com]

Pretty much. You wake up some morning and realize that, while boobs are fun, you don't really fantasize about other women, or whatever.

I don't know-- I think maybe people don't suddenly realize they are or are not a sexual orientation, but rather that they change over time.

[kibbles.livejournal.com]

I am not only completely uninterested in females physically, I have no desire for an emotional intimacy/romance (and I can get those flushed feelings with men still despite being married), and in fact the thought turns me off. I'm not DISGUSTED but the thought of kissing a woman again makes me go 'ew, no thanks' much like the thought of me voluntarily eating a raisin.

[conuly]

So, then, why did you think you were bi...? And you kissed....

Am confuzzled.

[kibbles.livejournal.com]

I was before my early 20s--somewhere in my early 20s I just no longer was attracted to women in any way, shape, or form.

[sparkofcreation.livejournal.com]

I have a friend who did just that. He just married a very young (er, okay, so she's 22, but he's 28 and has been living far from his parents and making lots of money since she was still in high school), very sweet, very religious girl who went straight from her parents' house to his. (I kinda suspect he said to himself "Okay, I have a new house, what do I need to make it complete? A wife!" Anyways.) I rather doubt she knows how well-acquainted he is with the gay section of Philly ... But in any case, he'd been dating only women for about three or four years, after being extremely active in his university's LGBT scene. Basically, he woke up one day and said, "you know, the kind of life I want to have involves a woman."

I liked him better when he was bi. Only partly because we used to go check out guys together.