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conulyI wasn't there for this, which might be just as well.
Jenn went with my mom into work today - she needs a little more help in the mornings, Mommy, so somebody has to go with her to the boat and then she goes the rest of the way alone. And they're waiting for the bus and then when it comes - it passes them! And the one after does the same, so when the third bus comes there's a lot of people waiting and the next one fully seven minutes away. And that bus is PACKED, so the driver apparently opens the back door and tells everybody to just go on through there - except my mother, who he knows and anyway, he can see she uses a cane. (She tells people it's mostly to get a seat, but she really does need it if she's going a longer distance.)
And as my mother gets on, somebody gets up to let her sit down. Except that as my mother is carefully turning to sit down, another woman swoops in and plops her four year old in the seat, with the end result being that my mother nearly squashes a small child.
And if that wasn't bad enough, this woman then (apparently) starts screeching about entitled old people who should be using access-a-ride. My mother was this close to hauling up her shirt and showing her the scars! The driver very nearly kicked that woman and her kid off the bus. Eventually everything settled down, but that awful woman gave my mother the finger as she got off. And her kid is right there watching everything, you know.
One day she's going to be the one using a cane, or a walker, or a wheelchair, and we'll see if she learns anything then.
Jenn went with my mom into work today - she needs a little more help in the mornings, Mommy, so somebody has to go with her to the boat and then she goes the rest of the way alone. And they're waiting for the bus and then when it comes - it passes them! And the one after does the same, so when the third bus comes there's a lot of people waiting and the next one fully seven minutes away. And that bus is PACKED, so the driver apparently opens the back door and tells everybody to just go on through there - except my mother, who he knows and anyway, he can see she uses a cane. (She tells people it's mostly to get a seat, but she really does need it if she's going a longer distance.)
And as my mother gets on, somebody gets up to let her sit down. Except that as my mother is carefully turning to sit down, another woman swoops in and plops her four year old in the seat, with the end result being that my mother nearly squashes a small child.
And if that wasn't bad enough, this woman then (apparently) starts screeching about entitled old people who should be using access-a-ride. My mother was this close to hauling up her shirt and showing her the scars! The driver very nearly kicked that woman and her kid off the bus. Eventually everything settled down, but that awful woman gave my mother the finger as she got off. And her kid is right there watching everything, you know.
One day she's going to be the one using a cane, or a walker, or a wheelchair, and we'll see if she learns anything then.
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Date: 2019-10-31 05:18 pm (UTC)Reminds me of when I sat next to a pregnant lady and she was upset that I even did that. I was sweaty and exhausted and she didn't like it one bit so decided to stand on the way to her next station.
I don't think it would have helped if I told her I didn't realize she was.
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Date: 2019-10-31 05:25 pm (UTC)You should've told her. I did that once. Got on a train that wasn't crowded but that had no seats left. Overheard somebody fussing that "nobody offers a seat to a pregnant woman". Turned around, frowned, asked which of the two young adults in that conversation was pregnant, and when told which one said straight up that if she needs a seat she should ask for one, because she didn't look even remotely pregnant at all. (And she didn't, either!) She had NO idea how to take that.
Of course, you can need a seat and not look like you need a seat, but it's still better to ask than to passive-aggressively bitch about it.
As for your random pregnant person, honestly, seats are made to be sat in! Just because you're eating for two that doesn't mean you get to sit for two unless you actually take up two seats. (In which case, you need as much space as you need and everybody else can mind their own business.)
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Date: 2019-10-31 05:33 pm (UTC)Most of the people I explained that sitch too had a similar take to yours. I did offer to let her sit again, but she told me I needed it more than her in that passive-aggressive way. Sigh, some people.
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Date: 2019-10-31 05:41 pm (UTC)"I sure do! Thanks for your understanding! :D"
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Date: 2019-10-31 05:57 pm (UTC)