An open letter to a dude on the internet:

[conuly]

It's not the autism. It's not your lack of wealth and youth. Since I assume you would've said if you had some seriously disfiguring condition, I feel safe in saying that you are not that hideous either that you can't get laid.

There are plenty of poor, ugly dudes with limited social skills who have active sex lives with willing, enthusiastic partners. Some of them are even actively hateful towards women and they still manage to find women to sleep with them. I wouldn't sleep with those dudes, but somebody does! A quick perusal of your other comments shows that you're not a vocal misogynist, so you're already ahead of the game here!

But I gotta say, honestly, that your self-loathing pity party is an enormous turn-off. Maybe not for everybody, but probably for most people. I'm well aware that pointing this out isn't actually the same as helping you stop doing that, but I just thought you ought to correctly identify the issue with your sex life.

Comments

[silveradept]

That can be a tricky thing to fix - what might be most helpful for that dude is a professional to help them figure out stuff they can build his self-esteem on.

More than likely, it's a constant stream of comparison to others and that rarely ends well.

[conuly]

And yet, I feel confident that nobody has ever gotten professional help thanks to somebody on the internet saying "Dude, you need help".

[silveradept]

Very rarely, certainly.