Don't know why I'm surprised

[conuly]

So, Sociological Images decided, for Father's Day, to post a piece about how estrangement hurts fathers. First there were a few comments from people pointing out that wow, that piece is very one-sided and that, in fact, mentally healthy people do not generally cut themselves off from their parents for no reason whatsoever. And in that vein, I linked to Issendai's study of estranged parent forums - and if this is a subject that interests you, you'd do well to read it.

Well, they must've been linked somewhere, because they're now inundated with very sad parents who have no idea why their kids estranged them, and want all the commenters who are estranged from their parents to know that they're terrible people. I'm going on the record now - Rose Pernice's daughter is estranged because her mother is a highly unpleasant person. I only needed a few comments to glean that piece of information, not that she'd listen if I tried to explain it to her.

Things like this are useful to read. I look at these exchanges and go "Wow. No matter how annoyed I am at my family, at least I can say they aren't this bad."

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[ironed_orchid]

I quite enjoyed this article from Jezebel last week: You Don't Have Daddy Issues But Your Piece of Shit Father Might. It starts by analyzing the sexism of attributing any psycho-sexual issues a woman has to "daddy issues" and then it looks at how some fathers have failed to be adequate parents, and that they are the ones with issues, with kids "just happened to be raised in his crossfire."