The Golden Rule
Apr. 26th, 2004 09:03 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
conulyDo unto others as you would have done unto you
This is the biggest load of crap. Not because I don't believe in starting out with people in a nice and respectful manner, but because what I want isn't necessarily what they want, often withamusing annoying results.
For example, all through school, the teachers I loved were those who not only could take correction but appreciated it. Used it as a chance to jump off into a new conversation, or (if I was the wrong one) to explain why that was carefully and nicely.
The ones I absolutely couldn't stand would say the most ridiculous things and then get mad if I pointed out the error (famously, when my bio teacher tried to tell the class that braille is embossed letters. A simple dictionary can tell you otherwise).
I'll be honest, I'm horrible at taking correction sometimes, but I'm even worse at finding out I'm wrong. In general, I like to know when I've made a mistake because I really hate the idea of making the same mistake twice. (Of course, if you try to correct me and I'm *not* wrong, don't get mad when I prove myself right.)
So, to me, being corrected is somewhat irritating, but an essentially good thing. To huge masses of people, if I'm correcting them, it's because I think they're stupid and I want to make them look or feel bad, or both. But I don't. I'm just sharing information, which is a good thing because being wrong is wrong!
And it goes on. Honestly, that rule only applies to the most obvious situations like don't interrupt them or don't hit them (except in highly specialized circumstances which have nothing to do with the topic, thankyouverymuch).
This is the biggest load of crap. Not because I don't believe in starting out with people in a nice and respectful manner, but because what I want isn't necessarily what they want, often with
For example, all through school, the teachers I loved were those who not only could take correction but appreciated it. Used it as a chance to jump off into a new conversation, or (if I was the wrong one) to explain why that was carefully and nicely.
The ones I absolutely couldn't stand would say the most ridiculous things and then get mad if I pointed out the error (famously, when my bio teacher tried to tell the class that braille is embossed letters. A simple dictionary can tell you otherwise).
I'll be honest, I'm horrible at taking correction sometimes, but I'm even worse at finding out I'm wrong. In general, I like to know when I've made a mistake because I really hate the idea of making the same mistake twice. (Of course, if you try to correct me and I'm *not* wrong, don't get mad when I prove myself right.)
So, to me, being corrected is somewhat irritating, but an essentially good thing. To huge masses of people, if I'm correcting them, it's because I think they're stupid and I want to make them look or feel bad, or both. But I don't. I'm just sharing information, which is a good thing because being wrong is wrong!
And it goes on. Honestly, that rule only applies to the most obvious situations like don't interrupt them or don't hit them (except in highly specialized circumstances which have nothing to do with the topic, thankyouverymuch).
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Date: 2004-04-27 09:36 am (UTC)I've got to admit that I don't exactly like being criticized, whether I be right or wrong; but I'd rather know I'm wrong when I first err than tell the same wrong thing to more people until they all blame me for sharing wrong information...
... now I've forgotten what I originally wanted to say. Gah. Maybe it'll turn up later.