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She does, however, attend when she visits her grandma upstate.
This is important for understanding the following conversation:
Me: *sitting on the ground*
Panties: *visible, apparently*
Ana: You draw on your panties?
Me: *checks panties - I have drawn on undergarments in the past, so this makes sense* No, honey, not these.
Ana: Oh. Wait... you write on your panties?
Me: What? No...
Ana: Somebody write on your panties! That not very nice!
Me: *realizes she means the writing on the elastic that says "Hanes"* Oh, no, honey, that's supposed to be there.
Ana: It's posed to be there?
Me: Yeah. It tells me who made my panties.
Ana: God made your panties.
Me: *cracks up laughing* No, honey, God did not make my panties.
Ana: Yes he did. In church, they say God made everything.
After convincing Ana that no, God did not in fact make my panties (and she can ask about it in church if she likes, though I didn't say that, just that she can ask her parents), I've gone a bit overboard in my explanation as to how I know God did not make my panties.
So I explain that some people think God is real (like Grandma does), and some people think God is pretend (like I do), and just because I think something doesn't mean I'm right. And I don't know what Mommy and Daddy think, she'll have to ask them. This is already far too much information, and I've realized that I have to tell her parents to get an official party line here, but at least it's all verifiable fact. (I do tend to let my mouth run away with me, and this is one of those times. Apparently.)
Then we call Nanen. And the first words out of Ana's mouth are "Is God 'tend or real?"
*sighs*
So, instead of waiting to tell her parents, I end up calling them so they can figure out what to tell her tonight. I don't really want to have the responsibility of telling her something that's going to cause serious family problems in the future.
(It already caused problems, with my mom complaining about "indoctrination", like that's not what teaching children your beliefs and values inherantly consists of. If this conversation serves as a warning against anything, it's not indoctrination but "giving children simple answers to questions" - I doubt her grandma intended to give the impression that God personally made my undergarments, but that's the idea Ana came away with, because they didn't explain their concept properly to her but used the simple phrase "God made everything" instead.)
This is important for understanding the following conversation:
Me: *sitting on the ground*
Panties: *visible, apparently*
Ana: You draw on your panties?
Me: *checks panties - I have drawn on undergarments in the past, so this makes sense* No, honey, not these.
Ana: Oh. Wait... you write on your panties?
Me: What? No...
Ana: Somebody write on your panties! That not very nice!
Me: *realizes she means the writing on the elastic that says "Hanes"* Oh, no, honey, that's supposed to be there.
Ana: It's posed to be there?
Me: Yeah. It tells me who made my panties.
Ana: God made your panties.
Me: *cracks up laughing* No, honey, God did not make my panties.
Ana: Yes he did. In church, they say God made everything.
After convincing Ana that no, God did not in fact make my panties (and she can ask about it in church if she likes, though I didn't say that, just that she can ask her parents), I've gone a bit overboard in my explanation as to how I know God did not make my panties.
So I explain that some people think God is real (like Grandma does), and some people think God is pretend (like I do), and just because I think something doesn't mean I'm right. And I don't know what Mommy and Daddy think, she'll have to ask them. This is already far too much information, and I've realized that I have to tell her parents to get an official party line here, but at least it's all verifiable fact. (I do tend to let my mouth run away with me, and this is one of those times. Apparently.)
Then we call Nanen. And the first words out of Ana's mouth are "Is God 'tend or real?"
*sighs*
So, instead of waiting to tell her parents, I end up calling them so they can figure out what to tell her tonight. I don't really want to have the responsibility of telling her something that's going to cause serious family problems in the future.
(It already caused problems, with my mom complaining about "indoctrination", like that's not what teaching children your beliefs and values inherantly consists of. If this conversation serves as a warning against anything, it's not indoctrination but "giving children simple answers to questions" - I doubt her grandma intended to give the impression that God personally made my undergarments, but that's the idea Ana came away with, because they didn't explain their concept properly to her but used the simple phrase "God made everything" instead.)
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Date: 2006-09-20 01:59 pm (UTC)I have no belief in god (though if one existed it would probably wear panties) and they do and I'm not fond of the impressions that they leave on her.
This summer they wanted her to visit them and I kept saying no because I didn't want her exposed to their beliefs for over a week when she is at such an impressionable age. Eventually I gave in and let her go up there but I told them my feelings on all that and that any opinions of theirs better not be conveyed to her as fact.
I want my child to think for herself on those matters and come up with her own beliefs. To brainwash a child and force them to believe in whatever structured religion or otherwise that one believes in is just wrong and evil in my opinion.
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Date: 2006-09-21 02:08 am (UTC)Mind, I think it's creepy when Ana's friend Deniz says grace, but she does it so robotically it really is creepy, even given my prejudices!
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Date: 2006-09-20 01:59 pm (UTC)I have no belief in god (though if one existed it would probably wear panties) and they do and I'm not fond of the impressions that they leave on her.
This summer they wanted her to visit them and I kept saying no because I didn't want her exposed to their beliefs for over a week when she is at such an impressionable age. Eventually I gave in and let her go up there but I told them my feelings on all that and that any opinions of theirs better not be conveyed to her as fact.
I want my child to think for herself on those matters and come up with her own beliefs. To brainwash a child and force them to believe in whatever structured religion or otherwise that one believes in is just wrong and evil in my opinion.
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Date: 2006-09-20 08:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-09-21 02:08 am (UTC)Mind, I think it's creepy when Ana's friend Deniz says grace, but she does it so robotically it really is creepy, even given my prejudices!