An entry from ABFH on discrimination

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Which is what we're fighting against, of course.

I might as well get rid of some old links as well.

Here's one about a boy who was told not to disclose his spectrum status in front of his class. And another.

A post about... oh, I don't know. Curing and changing and accepting your kids, I guess would be the best summation.

Comments

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That link seemed ok, but I have also seen the opposite, of people who are so plastic about their kids (no matter if they are NT, on the spectrum, disabled, whatever) that you think they are going to crack any second, and even worse, the ones who think that because you're kind of hassled and stress you are clearly incapable of being a parent. You really come across all kinds of parents out there. One of the perks (hahaha) of being a stay at home mom. More exposure to other parents. LUCKY ME.

As long as you aren't the sort (which I don't think you are) to go "you monster, you yelled at your kid/cried/thought about running off to Mexico". Or really, sometimes, and this is only a very very very select few people out there, there are people I will laugh about my kids with. Seriously, some of T's antics are laugh-or-cry situations and it would be cruel to him to share them, or make me look incompetent if I shared them, but I HAVE to share them. But not to everyone. Because either I will get people who think that means they can make fun of my kid all the time, or think I am horrible.

Most of these stories involve feces. And seriously, you HAVE to laugh about that because it's crying or puking in that case. I think I usually flock ANYTHING that is less than flattering about my children, or my family, because it is rude to just leave it completely open like that, and searchable. Same with D. Sometimes I have to vent but it doesn't mean I have to completely totally badmouth him all the time to the general public.

And I still feel with an understanding of your child's specific flavor of autism, you can lessen the REALLY bad bits. Not talking is frustrating and difficult and makes you worry about the future but what I mean is the tantrums or the screaming or the self injury or whatever. THOSE things, if you try to understand what sets it off, what hurts your kid, what frustrates your kid, you can lessen the incidents that make you want to fling yourself out a window. There is a world of difference between being upset that he can't communicate well versus being upset because he has been screaming for 40 minutes and you have NO CLUE WHY and no clue what would stop it. Lucky you, I'm commenting after his first meltdown in weeks so I'm a bit scatterbrained myself about this comment and thread because after the really big ones it's like being blindsided and takes a few hours for mommy to chill out, too. (He's happy and sleeping right now. Cute lil bugger.)