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Of course, the baby was tired, and when she saw her mom, she remembered she was hungry, started howling. I *did not* take her off - I couldn't. She was under my new kindercoat, there was simply no way.
And somebody had the audacity to ask if I realized the baby was crying on my back. He was serious, too, like somehow I'd missed noticing this!
Allow me to take a minute here to laugh. Ha. Haha. Hahahahahaha! Done now, thanks.
Now, I recognize that we don't generally see babies being worn often, it's a novel thing for people, they don't always grasp the logistics of it. And I recognize that if you're not used to it, it'll look strange, and therefore unsafe. I got that. But let me say a few things to be perfectly clear, so that you aren't making these same mistakes:
1. If you don't know what you're talking about, don't offer advice. Especially stupid advice like "you need a stroller", because, dude. I know strollers exist.
1.5 - offering to help, some people mind that, I don't. Just don't try to help unless asked, especially if you don't know the person in question. And resign yourself to the fact that "helping" can mean "bringing the bags a bit closer so I can see them better".
2. Think before you speak. Babies cry. A lot. If you see a baby crying in a stroller, you don't assume it's because the stroller is uncomfortable. The same goes for a carrier. Sometimes, babies are just tired or hungry or scared or sad. It happens.
3. Keep on thinking some more. Clearly, I'm not intentionally trying to murder the baby on me. She's not going to suffocate just because I tied her head to me via kanga, you can breathe through that fabric and her nose is uncovered anyway. She's not going to break her neck just because her head is resting on her shoulders, people do that all the time. Just think, okay? It's a good habit to get into anyway, thinking.
4. Just because a baby is crying doesn't mean that there's anything to be done. That's the same no matter what the adults are doing. Sometimes, you just have to wait it out because you're on a damn bus.
5. The baby is safer in the carrier than in my arms. She can't wiggle around and fall down. And if I should fall, I can't drop her. Trust me.
5.5 - She's also safer on my back than on my front. I can see my feet. I have better balance. I'm less likely to fall on her if, god forbid, something should happen. Trust me.
6. Yes, she's plenty warm. Because she's not in a stroller, she has my bodyheat keeping her warm. This means she doesn't have to be as bundled up as your kid is. I know it looks strange to you, but really - the bigger risk is overheating.
Basically, the advice boils down to this: If you don't know what you're talking about, accept that fact and consider how silly whatever you're about to say is. It probably is very silly, and more than a little annoying.
And somebody had the audacity to ask if I realized the baby was crying on my back. He was serious, too, like somehow I'd missed noticing this!
Allow me to take a minute here to laugh. Ha. Haha. Hahahahahaha! Done now, thanks.
Now, I recognize that we don't generally see babies being worn often, it's a novel thing for people, they don't always grasp the logistics of it. And I recognize that if you're not used to it, it'll look strange, and therefore unsafe. I got that. But let me say a few things to be perfectly clear, so that you aren't making these same mistakes:
1. If you don't know what you're talking about, don't offer advice. Especially stupid advice like "you need a stroller", because, dude. I know strollers exist.
1.5 - offering to help, some people mind that, I don't. Just don't try to help unless asked, especially if you don't know the person in question. And resign yourself to the fact that "helping" can mean "bringing the bags a bit closer so I can see them better".
2. Think before you speak. Babies cry. A lot. If you see a baby crying in a stroller, you don't assume it's because the stroller is uncomfortable. The same goes for a carrier. Sometimes, babies are just tired or hungry or scared or sad. It happens.
3. Keep on thinking some more. Clearly, I'm not intentionally trying to murder the baby on me. She's not going to suffocate just because I tied her head to me via kanga, you can breathe through that fabric and her nose is uncovered anyway. She's not going to break her neck just because her head is resting on her shoulders, people do that all the time. Just think, okay? It's a good habit to get into anyway, thinking.
4. Just because a baby is crying doesn't mean that there's anything to be done. That's the same no matter what the adults are doing. Sometimes, you just have to wait it out because you're on a damn bus.
5. The baby is safer in the carrier than in my arms. She can't wiggle around and fall down. And if I should fall, I can't drop her. Trust me.
5.5 - She's also safer on my back than on my front. I can see my feet. I have better balance. I'm less likely to fall on her if, god forbid, something should happen. Trust me.
6. Yes, she's plenty warm. Because she's not in a stroller, she has my bodyheat keeping her warm. This means she doesn't have to be as bundled up as your kid is. I know it looks strange to you, but really - the bigger risk is overheating.
Basically, the advice boils down to this: If you don't know what you're talking about, accept that fact and consider how silly whatever you're about to say is. It probably is very silly, and more than a little annoying.
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nice post...
Date: 2006-10-22 11:26 pm (UTC)nice post...
Date: 2006-10-22 11:26 pm (UTC)