Started randomly crying in the supermarket yesterday

[conuly]

because I randomly missed Mommy.

It goes without saying that this is a stupid place to randomly miss her. It's not even a supermarket I think she'd ever been in! Which, now that I type that, is a bit weird. It's the one closest to our house. But I can't remember her going to any that were close to our house at all. She went to the Pathmark by Michael's sometimes, or otherwise to fancier supermarkets to get a fancier grade of ravioli and/or picnic foods. Every trip to the supermarket was an expedition with her.

Fuck it, I'm dragging the entire family out to the park for a picnic as soon as the kids get back from visiting their stepmother. No excuses.

Comments

[lavendertook]

Hugs if you want them.

[chelseagirl]

I have trouble with parts of the Upper East Side, because that was my aunt's neighborhood. And she was a sometimes cranky lady, but I still miss her.

Heck, I already feel sad visiting the town my mom lives in near Buffalo because when she's gone, we'll probably sell the house and very likely I'll never go there again. I grew up in the Hudson Valley, Dad took a job there when I was in college, so it's not my roots. (And I REALLY wish I was going to inherit a house in the Hudson Valley.) But they moved up that way in 1981, and into that house in the late 90s, and I already have a sense of loss, about Dad, about the brief time my brother lived there, about another life I might have had if I'd given living up there a real go instead of fleeing to NYC as soon as I could.

[gingicat]

❤️‍🩹

[tamsin]

Grief is just weird like that. *sending hugs and beverage of your choice*

[sabotabby]

Grief is gonna grief. Take care of you.

[malada]

I still dream about my parents. For a while, they weren't pleasant dreams because my mom was angry and my dad was sill sick... but now they're fine and just... there, being themselves.

*hugs*

[elayna]

I know that feeling, grief hits at weird times.

*hugs*

[thewayne]

Last week I dreamed about attending my dad's funeral, but it wasn't remotely like what his actually was. And the weird thing was that my mom was there, though she passed before him a year earlier.

Brains and dreams are weird things. I don't think I dreamed about my mom until after my dad died.

[vamysteryfan]

You can never control when it hits you. Family can help

[ckd]

Grief is both universal and individual: universally applicable and extremely individualized in how it manifests, even for the same person at different times.

Holding you in my heart.

[greenwoodside]

Support.

I flashed back to visiting my dad for the last time in hospital today. (And yesterday...and the day before that etc. etc.)

Grief is so hard. Hope yours will settle into a shape that doesn't hurt and lets you get to the better memories without the sting.

Fuck it, I'm dragging the entire family out to the park for a picnic as soon as the kids get back from visiting their stepmother. No excuses.

Sounds like a good plan.

[chez_jae]

You'll always miss and mourn her, and it's not surprising that those emotions can just randomly ambush you. And that's okay.

I like your idea of wrangling some family bonding time. Enjoy it.

[maia]

*Hugs*

[adafrog]

{{{hugs}}}

[silveradept]

I hope you got support and understanding from everyone about the grief strike. And that the picnic was/will be a good time

[sallymn]

It does happen {hugs} I hope the picnic was good, and good for you.

[conuly]

Oh, it hasn't happened yet. The kids' stepmother is their former stepmother, really, except they're still close. Emotionally, that is. Physically, she lives on the opposite coast. They haven't even left to go see her yet!

[sallymn]

Oh sorry! I hope everything goes as well as possible.

[oracne]

The unexpected hits of grief are the WORST.

[andrewducker]

I hope it was a nice picnic.