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conulyabout some man who had left his dead mother in the living room for five years. At least five years, it may have been more.
Mommy was actually really sympathetic to this man. It doesn't seem he was doing anything fraudulent like collecting her pension, so it made sense that when he came home and found his mother dead he might've been really overwhelmed and decided to put it off until the morning. And in the morning it was the same, so he figured he'd call somebody later that day, and then at some point the acceptable window for delays closed and now he had the twin problems first of having to call people to deal with his mother's body but also explaining to them why he hadn't called right away.
And so she just sat there in the living room for several years.
Although she very much understood how this happened, you can expect that my mother didn't want this to happen to her, and many times she insisted we make the specific promise that, no matter what, we don't just put off handling her death because it's just overwhelming.
And we haven't, btw, and the other day I was talking to Jenn about this and that and she mentioned that next time around, hopefully a long time in the future, when one of us dies it should go a bit smoothly because the other one has already done all this once. To which I say that if it's her, and she has any advance warning at all, she'll probably have already set up a few scheduled deliveries of gift baskets for the rest of us. She likes to be prepared.
Now that I think of it, I'm actually kind of brilliant. You cannot tell me that's not my best idea ever.
Mommy was actually really sympathetic to this man. It doesn't seem he was doing anything fraudulent like collecting her pension, so it made sense that when he came home and found his mother dead he might've been really overwhelmed and decided to put it off until the morning. And in the morning it was the same, so he figured he'd call somebody later that day, and then at some point the acceptable window for delays closed and now he had the twin problems first of having to call people to deal with his mother's body but also explaining to them why he hadn't called right away.
And so she just sat there in the living room for several years.
Although she very much understood how this happened, you can expect that my mother didn't want this to happen to her, and many times she insisted we make the specific promise that, no matter what, we don't just put off handling her death because it's just overwhelming.
And we haven't, btw, and the other day I was talking to Jenn about this and that and she mentioned that next time around, hopefully a long time in the future, when one of us dies it should go a bit smoothly because the other one has already done all this once. To which I say that if it's her, and she has any advance warning at all, she'll probably have already set up a few scheduled deliveries of gift baskets for the rest of us. She likes to be prepared.
Now that I think of it, I'm actually kind of brilliant. You cannot tell me that's not my best idea ever.
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Date: 2022-10-17 03:37 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2022-10-17 03:45 pm (UTC)Around that same time there was another news story about some man who lived in a trailer with his girlfriend, and apparently she was going through some things and had stayed in his bathroom for three months, at which point he finally called somebody to help.
Which makes even more sense! Obviously the first few hours you can't call anybody, because they'll just say "Dude, tell your girlfriend to get out of the bathroom" and laugh at you, and then there's a narrow window where it's okay to get somebody in to help her get the help she apparently needs, and then once that window closes - slam! - anybody you call will be like "Why the hell didn't you call sooner!?"
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Date: 2022-10-17 03:55 pm (UTC)But a *live* person who went into a room and didn't come out? That's awful - if they went in and didn't come out - if I hadn't heard anything in a few hours, I would be really concerned - ESPECIALLY if they were "going through some things" and I wasn't hearing signs of life!
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Date: 2022-10-17 03:58 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2022-10-17 10:31 pm (UTC)So, she just...lived in the bathroom for 3 months? Did she call doordash and have them pass food through a window? How did he shower or go to the toilet for 3 months? OMG.
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Date: 2022-10-18 12:36 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2022-10-17 09:42 pm (UTC)