We just got a lovely bouquet for my mother from her job.

[conuly]

And to be fair, my mother would've liked these flowers.

On the other hand, she would've also liked snacks. I'm begging you, if you have the irrepressible urge to send something to somebody's house after a death, mine or anybody else's, consider a (culturally appropriate) gift basket. It reminds them to eat, plus they don't have to figure out what to do with food the way they have to do figure out what to do with flowers.

(Also, of late, none of the gift baskets I've gotten have made me cry. Flowers, apparently, are something else entirely.)

Edit: Not, of course, that I don't appreciate nice gestures, but... I'm still a bit too sad to appreciate flowers politely, I guess? Sorry.

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[conuly]

Jewish tradition is to send mourners food, which I think is very practical and helpful.

I think this is a lot of people's traditions, but somehow it gets mixed in with the flowers tradition which... well, I'm not a fan.

[cellio]

I assume others do this too; sorry for not being more clear. We also have a "not flowers" tradition, which I meant to work in there but didn't. If you visit a grave you don't leave flowers; you leave a stone. If there have been flowers at the funerals I've been to, I either didn't notice or don't remember -- not the overflowing cascade of arrangements and stuff I've seen at some other funerals.

I am fortunate to not yet have much personal experience with funerals, so I'm not equipped to make any broad statements bout traditions there.