We just got a lovely bouquet for my mother from her job.

[conuly]

And to be fair, my mother would've liked these flowers.

On the other hand, she would've also liked snacks. I'm begging you, if you have the irrepressible urge to send something to somebody's house after a death, mine or anybody else's, consider a (culturally appropriate) gift basket. It reminds them to eat, plus they don't have to figure out what to do with food the way they have to do figure out what to do with flowers.

(Also, of late, none of the gift baskets I've gotten have made me cry. Flowers, apparently, are something else entirely.)

Edit: Not, of course, that I don't appreciate nice gestures, but... I'm still a bit too sad to appreciate flowers politely, I guess? Sorry.

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[spiffikins]

When my mom passed, her sisters/mom/brother who all live in Saskatchewan sent us a MASSIVE floral arrangement. We were sort of in the same boat - like - it's a nice gesture - but it cost them a LOT of money - and what are we going to do with it? It sat on the counter for a week - ultimately we pulled out the dead bits and spruced it up a bit, and took it to the memorial service to put on the table next to the photo of my mom that we printed out and had on the provided easel.

It made my aunts feel good that they were "part" of the service I think - and while my mom would have loved the flowers -she wasn't really *there* to enjoy them?

Food - now - food would have been fabulous :D I totally appreciate now, the midwestern tradition of bringing a casserole to people after someone dies!

Big hugs to you - I know that everything must feel a bit raw right now. Take care of yourself - and - the best piece of advice that one of the hospice nurses gave me - be kind to yourselves and to each other.