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we hear often. And yup, we all can agree that it's sure an opinion, all right.

But it's rare for somebody to spell out that the only reason they're posting about it is because their feelings are hurt by somebody not wanting to talk politics with them.

She didn't even put a few paragraphs buffer between part A and part B. It's all "rar rar rar their dumb feelings, I can't believe they expect everybody to be nice to them to spare their feelings" and then BOOM - "I was just so hurt, how dare they speak like that, don't they know that it's mean?"

Two posts later, same person it was "My daughter said that when she was unconsensually groped she was harassed and I don't get it - how're you supposed to learn self-reliance when you tell gropers to stop being pervs!?"

Do these people hear themselves!?

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From:

alexseanchai

I'm gonna venture the guess that this person leans Republican. because there's heavy overlap between that political inclination and the notion that the leftist beliefs in research and logical consistency are and should be leftist weaknesses.

From:

conuly

Damn, was it that obvious? LOL.

What really irritates is she - like all of the conservatives of this ilk - is convinced that hers is the super duper rational position.

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moon_custafer

“Fuck Your Feelings” was actually “Fuck Your Feelings.”

I’m having trouble parsing the second one — it seems to me the only way it’d make the least amount of sense were if her argument were an individualistic “how're you supposed to learn self-reliance unless you tell gropers [yourself] to stop being pervs!?" instead of trying to get society to agree with you that the behaviour shouldn’t be happening in the first place, sort of a “school bullies build character” argument, but as phrased it sounds like she’s defining self-reliance as just letting the growers get away with it?

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bitterlawngnome

I had the same confusion.

Maybe it's "men can't help themselves and women need to stop asking for it by wearing red dresses"

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readerjane

Fussing about caring too much about hurt feelings is difficult to refute because it's not *always* wrong. Those in privilege care too much about when their feelings are hurt. Having the privilege to be affronted, and to have others take that affront seriously, makes them brittle. Affront is self-enforcing: anyone whose affront is indulged too much winds up feeling hurt about everything, and lashing out against those with less privilege.

But so much of the time, objecting about hurt feelings amounts to, "My feelings were hurt and I turned out fine." Which, no. If we want others to be hurt because we were hurt, then we did not in fact turn out fine.

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larryhammer

"My daughter said that when she was unconsensually groped she was harassed and I don't get it - how're you supposed to learn self-reliance when you tell gropers to stop being pervs!?"

What the -- that -- she -- I can't even.

Well, no, I can even: but it's a fine line between being my reaction and HUNK SMASH.

Run, don't walk, to the unfriend button.

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silveradept

That is certainly an opinion, and it is unsurprising that the person who is yelling about others being snowflakes is unable to recognize that the situation being described is much more than "your feelings got hurt, grow up" and is instead something far more serious that deserves support.

If you're going to be a heel to someone who needs support and for men to stop behaving like they're entitled to everything, then you should expect to get your own feelings hurt because you're not helping.