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conulyNothing more will be posted related to the QoW fiasco, you'll be pleased to know. That's number one.
Secondly, and this is important, I have a very important request to make. You all know what I've said about when you're offended by something I've said, but it bears repeating. If I say something to offend you, please tell me what it is I said. This is very important.
There is, however, something more important. If something I said offends you, or if something about me personally manages to upset you, please, see if you can explain why. Or tell me how to say the same things I've said without being offensive. Telling me that I seem "arrogant" or "rude" (hypothetical examples) isn't very helpful unless you explain why that is. I can't modify my behaviour unless I know what it is that needs to change.
I recognize that a lot of people are unaccustomed to this sort of analysis, but for the sake of my sanity (and hopefully our friendship, if you're my friend), I ask you to please, if you're upset, be specific. And immediate. Don't wait until you're really pissed to complain. Complain earlier. Saves time.
Now. Time for the apology.
Since I seem to have actually offended somebody recently, I would like to extend my heartfelt apologies. I am truly sorry for upsetting you, and would like to make amends.
Secondly, and this is important, I have a very important request to make. You all know what I've said about when you're offended by something I've said, but it bears repeating. If I say something to offend you, please tell me what it is I said. This is very important.
There is, however, something more important. If something I said offends you, or if something about me personally manages to upset you, please, see if you can explain why. Or tell me how to say the same things I've said without being offensive. Telling me that I seem "arrogant" or "rude" (hypothetical examples) isn't very helpful unless you explain why that is. I can't modify my behaviour unless I know what it is that needs to change.
I recognize that a lot of people are unaccustomed to this sort of analysis, but for the sake of my sanity (and hopefully our friendship, if you're my friend), I ask you to please, if you're upset, be specific. And immediate. Don't wait until you're really pissed to complain. Complain earlier. Saves time.
Now. Time for the apology.
Since I seem to have actually offended somebody recently, I would like to extend my heartfelt apologies. I am truly sorry for upsetting you, and would like to make amends.
