*still thinking about the six (or one) who dislike me...

[conuly]

One comment in particular does stick in my mind, about how "she (that is, me) thinks she's so insightful".

While I do find this whole thing amusing, this one comment is annoying as all fuck. Mostly because it's the sort of thing I hear all the time. I'm saying this ONCE, and I never want to have to say it again.

DO NOT FUCKING TRY TO GUESS WHAT I AM THINKING

Not unless you really know me quite well. If I have ever claimed to be insightful, please, shoot me now. It is RUDE to try to divine the thoughts of others, and their intentions. I don't think I'm insightful, or especially interesting (though the stats disprove that idea....), I just think I'm generally bored and like to type.

Thought I'd clear that one up. You may continue with your daily business.

Comments

[dkmnow.livejournal.com]

Yuppers. Misattribution is at the very core of almost all social problems between NTs and spectrumites. They are just as impaired at "reading" us as we are at "reading" them. The long-term effects of this are 1) we gradually become keenly aware of the dangers of misattribution and begin to actually try to accommodate the other parties, whereas they never come anywhere close to being forced to get a fucking clue, and 2) we get sick to death (sometimes literally) of being constantly faces with clueless bozos who flatter themselves into thinking that they are capable of telling us what we are thinking or feeling.

They, the "socially adept" ones, just assume that they have "put themselves in our shoes", when in fact, most of them would never - ever - go to the kind of trouble necessary to actually succeed in this with those of us on the spectrum. But it's no use trying to tell them that.

As Jim Sinclair put it: "I think that shows a serious lack of perspective-taking."

[conuly]

Some of it is definitely an AS/NT thing, but it doesn't matter. It's still fucking rude. Consider the Iliad. During the fight in the first book, Agamemnon is convinced that Achilles is only arguing so that he can gain power, and usurp him. Achilles is convinced that Agamemnon is greedy for material possessions, and doesn't care about anybody else's honor. They think they're fighting over the same thing, the girl Breseis, but they're not!

[dkmnow.livejournal.com]

They were both "projecting."

:-p

[conuly]

Pity I couldn't say that in my essay. Modern concept in an ancient book.

[dkmnow.livejournal.com]

Yuppers. Misattribution is at the very core of almost all social problems between NTs and spectrumites. They are just as impaired at "reading" us as we are at "reading" them. The long-term effects of this are 1) we gradually become keenly aware of the dangers of misattribution and begin to actually try to accommodate the other parties, whereas they never come anywhere close to being forced to get a fucking clue, and 2) we get sick to death (sometimes literally) of being constantly faces with clueless bozos who flatter themselves into thinking that they are capable of telling us what we are thinking or feeling.

They, the "socially adept" ones, just assume that they have "put themselves in our shoes", when in fact, most of them would never - ever - go to the kind of trouble necessary to actually succeed in this with those of us on the spectrum. But it's no use trying to tell them that.

As Jim Sinclair put it: "I think that shows a serious lack of perspective-taking."

[conuly]

Some of it is definitely an AS/NT thing, but it doesn't matter. It's still fucking rude. Consider the Iliad. During the fight in the first book, Agamemnon is convinced that Achilles is only arguing so that he can gain power, and usurp him. Achilles is convinced that Agamemnon is greedy for material possessions, and doesn't care about anybody else's honor. They think they're fighting over the same thing, the girl Breseis, but they're not!

[dkmnow.livejournal.com]

They were both "projecting."

:-p

[conuly]

Pity I couldn't say that in my essay. Modern concept in an ancient book.