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Nov. 6th, 2005
Remember this woman? The one who suffocated her son? I will agree that there should've been more help. But the way these articles are written....
She had put her life on hold for more than three decades to care for Patrick
So, because she can't live her life, she's the one suffering (not him)?
On the day she killed him, her son had been listening to the same Elton John CD for the whole day, and screaming "Elton".
I hope, I really do, that there was a lot more going on, that the article is written by a couple of inebriated monkeys. Because in my books, the fact that somebody is playing the same music over and over again is *not* a justification for murder. Not even the kind of murder you feel really bad about afterwards. To write a sentence that begins to imply that is completely unconscionable. Oh, yeah, we've all had those moments where we've said "if I hear that again...", but when you actually *mean it*, it's time to call 911 (or the British equivilant) and say "Send over the police, I'm about to snap".
If Markcrow's case was a one-off, we could perhaps just express our horror, and then turn our attention to the next news item.
Nobody's expressed horror. All I've heard is "oh, that poor dear".
But it's less than two years since Bill and Wendy Ainscow took sleeping pills and walked into the sea in Tenerife after years of caring for their daughter, who suffers from Aspergers Syndrome and can't stop spending money.
Yeah... their adult daughter who says she doesn't hold that diagnosis, and who, regardless, has adult parents who should have, before attempting suicide (and advising her to do the same!) have stopped giving her money. Pay her rent, buy her food if you're so worried about her and feel you must, but you don't hand money to people who'll spend it on junk.
She had put her life on hold for more than three decades to care for Patrick
So, because she can't live her life, she's the one suffering (not him)?
On the day she killed him, her son had been listening to the same Elton John CD for the whole day, and screaming "Elton".
I hope, I really do, that there was a lot more going on, that the article is written by a couple of inebriated monkeys. Because in my books, the fact that somebody is playing the same music over and over again is *not* a justification for murder. Not even the kind of murder you feel really bad about afterwards. To write a sentence that begins to imply that is completely unconscionable. Oh, yeah, we've all had those moments where we've said "if I hear that again...", but when you actually *mean it*, it's time to call 911 (or the British equivilant) and say "Send over the police, I'm about to snap".
If Markcrow's case was a one-off, we could perhaps just express our horror, and then turn our attention to the next news item.
Nobody's expressed horror. All I've heard is "oh, that poor dear".
But it's less than two years since Bill and Wendy Ainscow took sleeping pills and walked into the sea in Tenerife after years of caring for their daughter, who suffers from Aspergers Syndrome and can't stop spending money.
Yeah... their adult daughter who says she doesn't hold that diagnosis, and who, regardless, has adult parents who should have, before attempting suicide (and advising her to do the same!) have stopped giving her money. Pay her rent, buy her food if you're so worried about her and feel you must, but you don't hand money to people who'll spend it on junk.
Today's haiku:
Nov. 6th, 2005 02:03 am
Heavy now my eyes
Colorless green thoughts running
I should be asleep
Night all.
Colorless green thoughts running
I should be asleep
Night all.
God, I do everything backwards, don't I!
When Jenn gets off of maternity leave, I'll be watching the little one during the week (do you realize I'm doing 40+ hours now? Damn. I need paying), and sometimes Ana as well. So we're looking into slings, specifically the ability to hold two children in slings at the same time. Why? Is it because we're morally opposed to strollers? Because we think that slings are better for children? That none of us can drive, or has a car? Well, yeah... But really it's because I find carrying Ana or making her walk to be a lot easier than messing with a damn stroller. So, because I'm too lazy to use a stroller, I'm seeking out slings, which many people would consider to be the more difficult option.
Jenn's been looking, partially at my behest, into ECing in addition to using diapers, when the baby gets a bit bigger. Is this because I abhor the mess in our landfills? Because I believe cleanliness to be next to godliness? Because I wanna be the different one all the time? Well, sorta... but really it's because, deep down, every fiber of my being is saying "in the long run, this has got to be easier than dealing with diaper rash!" *giggles* And I know, most people would consider that absolutely insane - diapers are easier, everybody knows that! But in the long run, I'm not so sure. I'm just... too lazy to mess with those. (I'm not pushing Jenn into this, it's her kid after all. I'm just seeking out the information for her and making sure she sees it.)
When Ana goes on the swings, I make sure she gets on the big-kid swings, and sit behind her chanting "pump, Ana, pump!" It's easier to push her without getting thwacked in the face if she's in a baby swing, but the sooner she gets a handle on this whole "pumping" concept, the sooner I don't have to push her anymore, and can go on my *own* swing.
This is always my way, not just with the babies. I go through a massive amount of effort in the present because I want to save myself effort in the future. I'm lazy like that. And it's good, it works well, but man if this is not just the most backward way of doing things!
When Jenn gets off of maternity leave, I'll be watching the little one during the week (do you realize I'm doing 40+ hours now? Damn. I need paying), and sometimes Ana as well. So we're looking into slings, specifically the ability to hold two children in slings at the same time. Why? Is it because we're morally opposed to strollers? Because we think that slings are better for children? That none of us can drive, or has a car? Well, yeah... But really it's because I find carrying Ana or making her walk to be a lot easier than messing with a damn stroller. So, because I'm too lazy to use a stroller, I'm seeking out slings, which many people would consider to be the more difficult option.
Jenn's been looking, partially at my behest, into ECing in addition to using diapers, when the baby gets a bit bigger. Is this because I abhor the mess in our landfills? Because I believe cleanliness to be next to godliness? Because I wanna be the different one all the time? Well, sorta... but really it's because, deep down, every fiber of my being is saying "in the long run, this has got to be easier than dealing with diaper rash!" *giggles* And I know, most people would consider that absolutely insane - diapers are easier, everybody knows that! But in the long run, I'm not so sure. I'm just... too lazy to mess with those. (I'm not pushing Jenn into this, it's her kid after all. I'm just seeking out the information for her and making sure she sees it.)
When Ana goes on the swings, I make sure she gets on the big-kid swings, and sit behind her chanting "pump, Ana, pump!" It's easier to push her without getting thwacked in the face if she's in a baby swing, but the sooner she gets a handle on this whole "pumping" concept, the sooner I don't have to push her anymore, and can go on my *own* swing.
This is always my way, not just with the babies. I go through a massive amount of effort in the present because I want to save myself effort in the future. I'm lazy like that. And it's good, it works well, but man if this is not just the most backward way of doing things!
