This has been making the rounds lately
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I'll just quote from their page:
This photography project was created in October of 2011 by Grace Brown. Grace works with survivors of sexual assault, photographing them holding a poster with a quote from their attacker.
Obviously this can be triggering to some people.
What's interesting (and yet oh so predictable) is that the majority of them, even if you discount those that were molested as children, were harmed by people they knew. Many of them mention that "he was my best friend" or similar. I point this out because so often the threat of rape is used to keep people (women, really) from going out alone, or walking around at night, that sort of thing. Well, you're probably not going to be raped by a stranger. It's as true for adults as it is for children - the people who want to hurt you already know you.
What's also interesting, although I feel a bit weird saying it, is that out of the comments from those who were molested as children, they're all so similar. Oh, not the threats of "If you tell somebody something bad will happen" but the rest of it. It's like they're all acting from the same script, like child molesters get together once a month to discuss their lines and make sure they all know their cues.
It's disturbing, is what it is, even more so than the fact that this sort of thing goes on at all.
I'll just quote from their page:
This photography project was created in October of 2011 by Grace Brown. Grace works with survivors of sexual assault, photographing them holding a poster with a quote from their attacker.
Obviously this can be triggering to some people.
What's interesting (and yet oh so predictable) is that the majority of them, even if you discount those that were molested as children, were harmed by people they knew. Many of them mention that "he was my best friend" or similar. I point this out because so often the threat of rape is used to keep people (women, really) from going out alone, or walking around at night, that sort of thing. Well, you're probably not going to be raped by a stranger. It's as true for adults as it is for children - the people who want to hurt you already know you.
What's also interesting, although I feel a bit weird saying it, is that out of the comments from those who were molested as children, they're all so similar. Oh, not the threats of "If you tell somebody something bad will happen" but the rest of it. It's like they're all acting from the same script, like child molesters get together once a month to discuss their lines and make sure they all know their cues.
It's disturbing, is what it is, even more so than the fact that this sort of thing goes on at all.
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Date: 2012-06-20 03:52 pm (UTC)I've been assaulted twice by strangers: one fled when I screamed; the other fled after I repeatedly stabbed him in the face with my pen. I've been harassed by strangers countless times, starting even before menarche, and had some narrow escapes. But I've never been raped by a stranger, only by men I loved and trusted.
As far as I'm concerned, the two most important rape-avoidance tips are:
1. Don't drink alone with a man you don't wish to fuck.
2. Don't marry, live with or keep going out with anyone who hurts, forces, coerces or manipulates you.
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Date: 2012-06-20 04:34 pm (UTC)