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May. 20th, 2004 04:45 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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From Etiquette Hell...
A close friend of mine once told me about her white trash cousin's baby's funeral, and to this day it grosses me out. The baby girl had been stillborn, and for the funeral they picked out a nice frilly dress and fixed her up like a beautiful doll. At some point during the viewing, some of the redneck relatives (the mother included) decided the baby was so cute, they just had to pass her around and then posed with the baby for pictures like it was some party!! They were so proud of the pictures they carried them around and tried to show them to everyone, myself included. I managed to avoid seeing them and now avoid the entire creepy family.
*shudders* How can anybody DO that? This one has to be made up. I can't believe anybody would ever pass around the dead baby and pose taking pictures like that.
Of course, it reminds me of a story my Bonnemaman told, where somebody she knew was sitting in the park with her baby, and the baby was crying and fussy. So the mother looked at other babies and felt just so guilty because there was one mother with her baby sleeping quietly in the park. But it turned out that the baby had died there in the stroller, and nobody knew.
A close friend of mine once told me about her white trash cousin's baby's funeral, and to this day it grosses me out. The baby girl had been stillborn, and for the funeral they picked out a nice frilly dress and fixed her up like a beautiful doll. At some point during the viewing, some of the redneck relatives (the mother included) decided the baby was so cute, they just had to pass her around and then posed with the baby for pictures like it was some party!! They were so proud of the pictures they carried them around and tried to show them to everyone, myself included. I managed to avoid seeing them and now avoid the entire creepy family.
*shudders* How can anybody DO that? This one has to be made up. I can't believe anybody would ever pass around the dead baby and pose taking pictures like that.
Of course, it reminds me of a story my Bonnemaman told, where somebody she knew was sitting in the park with her baby, and the baby was crying and fussy. So the mother looked at other babies and felt just so guilty because there was one mother with her baby sleeping quietly in the park. But it turned out that the baby had died there in the stroller, and nobody knew.
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Date: 2004-05-20 02:03 pm (UTC)I worked with a woman who had a nephew die at the age of about 6. They video taped the whole funeral including the burial. They set it to music and then asked me to make a copy of it as I had 2 video recorders. The music was 'I will always love you' by Whitney Houston. So that was forever ruined.
This is where it gets weird. On his birthday, at Easter or any occasion they would visit his grave with gifts and cards. When my friend had a child, she took him to visit the grave on a regular basis so that he would 'know his cousin'. I left the company 5 years after the nephew died but they were still visiting. They would leave Easter eggs, Christmas and birthday presents, cards etc....it was all just a little bit too obsessive.
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Date: 2004-05-20 02:11 pm (UTC)And that friend of yours... Wow. Just... wow. There's a superstition that excessive grieving disturbs the dead, maybe her family needs to hear (and believe) that. It can't be good for them.
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Date: 2004-05-20 04:34 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2004-05-20 08:58 pm (UTC)I agree that it's very icky, and I'd never do it, but it's sort of understandable if you look at it very, very hard. ^^;;;;
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Date: 2004-05-20 02:03 pm (UTC)I worked with a woman who had a nephew die at the age of about 6. They video taped the whole funeral including the burial. They set it to music and then asked me to make a copy of it as I had 2 video recorders. The music was 'I will always love you' by Whitney Houston. So that was forever ruined.
This is where it gets weird. On his birthday, at Easter or any occasion they would visit his grave with gifts and cards. When my friend had a child, she took him to visit the grave on a regular basis so that he would 'know his cousin'. I left the company 5 years after the nephew died but they were still visiting. They would leave Easter eggs, Christmas and birthday presents, cards etc....it was all just a little bit too obsessive.
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Date: 2004-05-20 02:11 pm (UTC)And that friend of yours... Wow. Just... wow. There's a superstition that excessive grieving disturbs the dead, maybe her family needs to hear (and believe) that. It can't be good for them.
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Date: 2004-05-20 04:34 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-05-20 04:43 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-05-20 08:58 pm (UTC)I agree that it's very icky, and I'd never do it, but it's sort of understandable if you look at it very, very hard. ^^;;;;