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Just me, Ana, and Deniz.
At the museum, we met this woman with her kid, Max. Max was wearing a pink jacket, but had rather short hair, so eventually I asked The Big Silly Question - um, is that him? Or...?
Oh, no, his mother says. "He's a boy, pink is just his favorite color, and we don't really care, it's not that important."
Max's parents rock.
Can I say that a little louder here? Because that sentence cheered me up considerably.
In *other* news, Ana and Deniz pull the same trick. If you ask them their favorite color, they'll go "Well, my favorite color is yellow (blue for Deniz), but also pinkandpurple." I take this to mean "I like yellow (blue) the most, but I'll say pink and purple as well just because", and isn't that a sad state of affairs for a child?
At the museum, we met this woman with her kid, Max. Max was wearing a pink jacket, but had rather short hair, so eventually I asked The Big Silly Question - um, is that him? Or...?
Oh, no, his mother says. "He's a boy, pink is just his favorite color, and we don't really care, it's not that important."
Max's parents rock.
Can I say that a little louder here? Because that sentence cheered me up considerably.
In *other* news, Ana and Deniz pull the same trick. If you ask them their favorite color, they'll go "Well, my favorite color is yellow (blue for Deniz), but also pinkandpurple." I take this to mean "I like yellow (blue) the most, but I'll say pink and purple as well just because", and isn't that a sad state of affairs for a child?
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Date: 2006-10-22 01:36 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-10-22 01:40 am (UTC)So my own conversation was irritating to my very own ears, which probably says a lot about something.
I asked because I'd started wondering when I said to the two of them "sit next to the little girl" (they'd wanted to wander off) and then saw the distinctly not little-girl haircut and name. And I figure when I wonder something, it's usually better to ask. Even if it's a pretty dumb question.
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Date: 2006-10-22 09:32 pm (UTC)if I want to know a baby's name, I'll take a quick peek at its clothes/whatnot. if it's overwhelmingly blue or pink or whatever, i'll go with that. otherwise I just pick "his" or "her" to place into the "what's ___ name?" question. Or I will look at the baby and say something like "hello! you're so cute. what's your name?" which usually makes a baby giggle and the parent chime in with the answer. I never ask people if they're having boys or girls if they're pregnant..just what colors they like for baby stuff, if i'll be getting them a gift.
we had a kid at the museum who seemed like a little boy, but had a tiny ponytail. could be a girl growing out short hair, could be a boy who's growing his, or could be a boy who just felt like having a ponytail. either way, doesn't really matter.
I figure if you're willing to let your little boy wear pink, you're used to correcting people when they say "she" or "the little girl"...IF you even bother to correct. if it's someone I weren't going to see again, I probably wouldn't even bother, really. but then, as I said, too many soc courses, and that alone would probably lead to me raising a rather gender-nonconformist kid...OR a kid who rebels against me by adhering to strict traditional sex/gender roles.
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Date: 2006-10-22 04:57 am (UTC)I love purple but black, blue & red are close seconds. Perhaps this is what they mean.
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Date: 2006-10-30 08:19 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-10-31 04:04 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-10-31 04:28 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-10-22 01:36 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-10-22 01:40 am (UTC)So my own conversation was irritating to my very own ears, which probably says a lot about something.
I asked because I'd started wondering when I said to the two of them "sit next to the little girl" (they'd wanted to wander off) and then saw the distinctly not little-girl haircut and name. And I figure when I wonder something, it's usually better to ask. Even if it's a pretty dumb question.
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Date: 2006-10-22 09:32 pm (UTC)if I want to know a baby's name, I'll take a quick peek at its clothes/whatnot. if it's overwhelmingly blue or pink or whatever, i'll go with that. otherwise I just pick "his" or "her" to place into the "what's ___ name?" question. Or I will look at the baby and say something like "hello! you're so cute. what's your name?" which usually makes a baby giggle and the parent chime in with the answer. I never ask people if they're having boys or girls if they're pregnant..just what colors they like for baby stuff, if i'll be getting them a gift.
we had a kid at the museum who seemed like a little boy, but had a tiny ponytail. could be a girl growing out short hair, could be a boy who's growing his, or could be a boy who just felt like having a ponytail. either way, doesn't really matter.
I figure if you're willing to let your little boy wear pink, you're used to correcting people when they say "she" or "the little girl"...IF you even bother to correct. if it's someone I weren't going to see again, I probably wouldn't even bother, really. but then, as I said, too many soc courses, and that alone would probably lead to me raising a rather gender-nonconformist kid...OR a kid who rebels against me by adhering to strict traditional sex/gender roles.
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Date: 2006-10-22 04:57 am (UTC)I love purple but black, blue & red are close seconds. Perhaps this is what they mean.
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Date: 2006-10-30 08:19 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2006-10-31 04:28 am (UTC)