Something I said in my last post got me thinking...

[conuly]

It is really hard to get on my list of people I don't like. Seriously, I can count the people I don't like.

I don't like Hadla. I know some people do, so I won't go into this, but I really don't like the girl.
I don't like Zzo. He can't spell and he's annoying.
I don't like this girl who was in my computer class senior year. For whatever reason, she thought it was funny to go out of her way to bother me.
I don't like the moron who confused natural and normal and pretended I was the one being stupid. However, my feelings against him will pass soon.

So we've got four people on my list, one of whom is temporary only. This list is limited to those I've spoken too. Rapists and murderers, while definitely on my "hate" list in general, don't make it into my "I don't like you" list individually because I don't know any.

This is four people out of a lifetime of:

_{Glue on my shirt
Ink on my shirt
Gum on my chair so it would get... on my shirt.
Snide comments about my clothes and/or hair.
Questions such as "do you comb your hair" (it frizzes, okay?) so I'd say "no, I brush it" and get laughed at for no reason I understood.
Fingers being snapped RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY FACE while I read, and whoever did it being gone as soon as I looked up.
People asking me if I liked to read, when I clearly read at least two books a day (okay, this probably wasn't meant to be rude, but it was sure annoying)
People stealing my money from my bag, telling me they'd done it, then denying it when I complained (thank you, tiffany, you bitch, and why did you want to sign my yearbook again?)
Spraying perfume in my face
Doing any of the above and then denying it by saying "I'm your friend, right?
Doing an english assignment to write a sonnet by clearly writing it about me, down to details of my clothes and speech, and ending it with a line about how if I weren't so strange, I could have friends.(Like I said, thanks, bitch, and thank you Mr. Wright for being so blind as to read that thing aloud in class)
Spinning/lowering the chair I was sitting in in that computer class
Trying to tell me I was at the wrong computer in my computer class when I hadn't moved ALL TERM
Turning off said computer when I was halfway through my work because you didn't want to sit where YOU had been sitting ALL TERM
Agreeing to be in my group during gym one week, and then pretending it hadn't happened the next (yeah, so I suck at all sports I've tried, big deal, I hate being shuttled from group to group so GROW UP)
Being a snot and not letting me kinda unofficially sit out from whatever we're doing in gym, and then having the nerve to complain that I was part of your losing a game (it's just a game in gym. Did I tell you to grow up yet?)
Making clearly audible comments about my glasses/clothes/reading "behind my back" (if you MUST insult me, do it to my face. I'm a big girl, I can take it. It's not like I can't hear you as it is)}

Anyway, the list goes on. The point is, the vast majority of those people (with the notable exception of the computerclassbitch) were forgiven fairly quickly. They're immature little snots, yeah, but they can't help it, and they'll either grow out of it or they won't. In all honesty, being angry takes up so much energy that it's not worth it to stay mad at people, even jerks. So if you manage, somehow, to find yourself on my list, that means you've done something so bad that I can remember you individually, you don't blur into the background for me.

Because, seriously, there's very few people I don't like. If you're on my list, you deserve to be there

Anyway. That's over. Wow. Huh. And even listing all that (and then some which I declined to mention because it's not any of your business) there's still only the four people on my list. I'm either too forgiving or a saint.

Comments

[feathered.livejournal.com]

Hmm.. I got a LOT of the same treatment in jr. high, and for a long time I hated and feared the people who teased me so constantly, but now that I think about it I don't anymore. I can't say that I like them.. it's just sort of an empty, neutral feeling. I guess it's not worth my energy to still be upset about things that haven't happened in three years.

There are people that I actively dislike now. Someone at the forums (only because they attacked me), scaryedwin from school, the insufferable baptist girl in the honours program who thinks that she's got all of the answers and so refuses to listen to anyone else's opinion.... But I doubt these feelings will last. Really, there's only one person I'll probably hate for the rest of my life.

I would say something general about feelings of dislike not lasting beyond the situation in which they are incurred, but I know that some people hold grudges for years. My little brother is a good example of this. He still despises people for silly things they did in elementary school. He's so bitter and obsessive about the wrongs done to him that I bet he'll probably still remember them when he's twenty, thirty, forty. He's just like that. Maybe some people have the temperaments to forgive, or in my case, not care anymore? Hmm.

[morganne13.livejournal.com]

I'm with you guys.....i never really hold a grudge. The people who tortured me in middle school and early high school have long since become different people or have moved out of my little world. I don't waste my time and energy on hating them (some of them i even like the people they became...is very strange how things change) or anybody else. There are so many other more fun things to do and think about and feel. I really can't think of anyone i hate at the moment. Like at all. Wow.............and i am so not a saint.........

[black-rat.livejournal.com]

*pats you* I hate people who pick on you. Even those dumb questions. Like I come in with the dog's leash in hand and ma askes me did I take the dog out *eyeroll*. And I just HATE for people to ask me what I'm reading. I know they're curious, want to start conversation, ect. but can't you have the decency to wait for me to me to finish a chapter? I'm useless for multitasking, and it's very hard for me to switch points of awareness so suddenly.

Rant over.

I think I tend to hold grudges, though I'm getting better at it. But there are these two girls I just cannot forgive. One tortured lead the rest of the class in torturing me so I had to go to a private school, the other was my friend, but decided to take the low road and join the masses in my torture. I know that Ashli(the first girl) lives in poverty, has abusive parents, ect ect, does that make me hate her any less?

Just the other day I said some thing I may regret about a certain NC member. I don't really hate her, but I will not read any more of her posts. They just make me too upset.

[fjorab-teke.livejournal.com]

I don't like Zzo. He can't spell and he's annoying.

I can tolerate people who can't spell. My husband's spelling is (often hilariously) atrocious. When he was a kid, he didn't care to learn how to spell, and now his old ingrained habit of that has come to bite him in the ass now that he has started to notice that it's important.

But Zzo...he does it on purpose, I'm convinced, and THAT is severely annoying. I do a few shorthands and such, but I try not to do it so much that it's illegible or annoying.

[conuly]

He certainly does it on purpose... it's too consistent to be dyslexia, and they're all english spelling conventions, so it's not a foreign language thing (aside from which, he's canadian, and it's certainly not a french spelling style). He deserves to rot in the deepest pit of hell with the lawyers.

[feathered.livejournal.com]

Hmm.. I got a LOT of the same treatment in jr. high, and for a long time I hated and feared the people who teased me so constantly, but now that I think about it I don't anymore. I can't say that I like them.. it's just sort of an empty, neutral feeling. I guess it's not worth my energy to still be upset about things that haven't happened in three years.

There are people that I actively dislike now. Someone at the forums (only because they attacked me), scaryedwin from school, the insufferable baptist girl in the honours program who thinks that she's got all of the answers and so refuses to listen to anyone else's opinion.... But I doubt these feelings will last. Really, there's only one person I'll probably hate for the rest of my life.

I would say something general about feelings of dislike not lasting beyond the situation in which they are incurred, but I know that some people hold grudges for years. My little brother is a good example of this. He still despises people for silly things they did in elementary school. He's so bitter and obsessive about the wrongs done to him that I bet he'll probably still remember them when he's twenty, thirty, forty. He's just like that. Maybe some people have the temperaments to forgive, or in my case, not care anymore? Hmm.

[morganne13.livejournal.com]

I'm with you guys.....i never really hold a grudge. The people who tortured me in middle school and early high school have long since become different people or have moved out of my little world. I don't waste my time and energy on hating them (some of them i even like the people they became...is very strange how things change) or anybody else. There are so many other more fun things to do and think about and feel. I really can't think of anyone i hate at the moment. Like at all. Wow.............and i am so not a saint.........

[black-rat.livejournal.com]

*pats you* I hate people who pick on you. Even those dumb questions. Like I come in with the dog's leash in hand and ma askes me did I take the dog out *eyeroll*. And I just HATE for people to ask me what I'm reading. I know they're curious, want to start conversation, ect. but can't you have the decency to wait for me to me to finish a chapter? I'm useless for multitasking, and it's very hard for me to switch points of awareness so suddenly.

Rant over.

I think I tend to hold grudges, though I'm getting better at it. But there are these two girls I just cannot forgive. One tortured lead the rest of the class in torturing me so I had to go to a private school, the other was my friend, but decided to take the low road and join the masses in my torture. I know that Ashli(the first girl) lives in poverty, has abusive parents, ect ect, does that make me hate her any less?

Just the other day I said some thing I may regret about a certain NC member. I don't really hate her, but I will not read any more of her posts. They just make me too upset.

[fjorab-teke.livejournal.com]

I don't like Zzo. He can't spell and he's annoying.

I can tolerate people who can't spell. My husband's spelling is (often hilariously) atrocious. When he was a kid, he didn't care to learn how to spell, and now his old ingrained habit of that has come to bite him in the ass now that he has started to notice that it's important.

But Zzo...he does it on purpose, I'm convinced, and THAT is severely annoying. I do a few shorthands and such, but I try not to do it so much that it's illegible or annoying.

[conuly]

He certainly does it on purpose... it's too consistent to be dyslexia, and they're all english spelling conventions, so it's not a foreign language thing (aside from which, he's canadian, and it's certainly not a french spelling style). He deserves to rot in the deepest pit of hell with the lawyers.