Link stolen from a topic on metaquotes

[conuly]

Warning signs: Your child may have teh homosexuality

Is My Child Becoming Homosexual?

Before puberty, children aren’t normally heterosexual or homosexual. They’re definitely gender conscious. But young children are not sexual beings yet — unless something sexual in nature has interrupted their developmental phases.

Still, it’s not uncommon for children to experience gender confusion during the elementary school years. Dr. Joseph Nicolosi reports, “In one study of 60 effeminate boys ages 4 to 11, 98 percent of them engaged in cross-dressing, and 83 percent said they wished they had been born a girl.”

Apparently, if they had been born girls, their parents wouldn't be obsessing over their sexuality, so that really explains a lot....

Evidences of gender confusion or doubt in boys ages 5 to 11 may include:

1. A strong feeling that they are “different” from other boys.

(I always thought that kinda indicated that you were a superhero, but I might be wrong.)

2. A tendency to cry easily, be less athletic, and dislike the roughhousing that other boys enjoy.

(Also known as "at tendency to not be a bully")

3. A persistent preference to play female roles in make-believe play.

(...okay, that one would be a little odd if it persisted all the way through early puberty, but unlike this twerp, I'm not concerned about that)

4. A strong preference to spend time in the company of girls and participate in their games and other pastimes.

(also known as "a strong tendency to be able to get a date later. With a girl. Geez, you'd think they'd be *worried* about all that boy-on-boy action....)

5. A susceptibility to be bullied by other boys, who may tease them unmercifully and call them “queer,” “fag” and “gay.”

(I have to laugh, because otherwise I'd cry.)

6. A tendency to walk, talk, dress and even “think” effeminately.

(Dear God, my parents can now read my thoughts? I'm so scared.)

7. A repeatedly stated desire to be — or insistence that he is — a girl.

(If that one didn't clue you in already that your kid might be a little gay/trans, you may need some help with your own deep-seated denial)

If your child is experiencing several signs of gender confusion, professional help is available. It’s best to seek that help before your child reaches puberty.


“By the time the adolescent hormones kick in during early adolescence, a full-blown gender identity crisis threatens to overwhelm the teenager,” warns psychologist Dr. James Dobson. To compound the problem, many of these teens experience “great waves of guilt accompanied by secret fears of divine retribution.”

Well, GEEE, why the fuck do you think they feel "great waves of guilt" and fear "divine retribution"? It's sure as hell not because they have anything to feel guilty about, you fucking idiot!

If your child has already reached puberty, change is difficult, but it’s not too late.

Comments

[peaseblossom03.livejournal.com]

In the case of my brother at that age, it was a case of having three sisters and no brothers and wanting to fit in.

Gender identity crisis indeed. Oy. *eyeroll*

[ril-chan.livejournal.com]

God save us from James Dobson. :/

[spitefairy.livejournal.com]

Uh oh, looks like my boyfriend and I will have to break up, we both have the gay.

[conuly]

Poor dear.

[fledchen.livejournal.com]

This "doctor" is an advocate of severly abusive corporal punishment. He may have a real degree, but he's still a quack.

[conuly]

Yes, I don't think any of us were in any danger of not knowing that.

[rantinan.livejournal.com]

heh, ya'll know what i;d like to do to this quack without having to even say it any more.

[eofs.livejournal.com]

1. A strong feeling that they are “different” from other girls.

Check.

2. A tendency to cry easily, be more athletic, and enjoy the roughhousing that other girls dislike.

Check.

3. A persistent preference to play male roles in make-believe play.

Maybe check. In real plays certainly. Male roles are, 90% of the time, more interesting. Fortunately I got cast as them a lot. I actually had to be taught to walk like a woman when playing one...

4. A strong preference to spend time in the company of boys and participate in their games and other pastimes.

Check.

5. A susceptibility to be bullied by other girls, who may tease them unmercifully and call them “queer,” “lezza” and “gay.”

Not so check, admittedly. It was an acknowledged fact in my later school years that I was a lesbian (because I didn't have boyfriends, duh) but it wasn't ever used as a weapon against me. Which is a shame, because I'd have had a good time laughing.

And is it possible to tease someone mercifully?

6. A tendency to walk, talk, dress and even “think” masculinely.

So very check.

7. A repeatedly stated desire to be — or insistence that she is — a boy.

And check once more. Oh dear. I must be gay. Ooooops. Funny how I never noticed.

Although I think I was a slightly confused child. My father saying "when I was a little girl..." left me with some slightly mixed up ideas on who turned into daddies and who turned in to mummies ;0)

[leora.livejournal.com]

And the part of this no one is attacking is the idea that children aren't sexual until puberty unless abused... That is true for ~some~ people. It's also total bunk for some people. I know several people who were not sexually molested and were highly sexual at young ages. Most kids have a certain level of sexuality from very young ages (try to get young boys to not touch themselves in public, sometimes it's a challenge) and some exploration is normal. But some are just full-blown wanting sex at young ages with no particular abnormalities. This makes some people uncomfortable, but it's true. Your precious angel may be wishing he were attractive enough to get laid or wondering why high school girls aren't interested in his 5 year old body.

[sporks5000.livejournal.com]

1. A strong feeling that they are “different” from other boys.
Check.

2. A tendency to cry easily, be less athletic, and dislike the roughhousing that other boys enjoy.
Check.

3. A persistent preference to play female roles in make-believe play.
Not persistant, no....

4. A strong preference to spend time in the company of girls and participate in their games and other pastimes.
Check.

5. A susceptibility to be bullied by other boys, who may tease them unmercifully and call them “queer,” “fag” and “gay.”
Check.

6. A tendency to walk, talk, dress and even “think” effeminately.
On occasion.

7. A repeatedly stated desire to be — or insistence that he is — a girl.
Check. On both accounts.

And you'll notice that despite these behavious throughout my youth, I'm straight.

Who ever wrote this needs to try again.

Still, it's a step above the fellow who thought his three year old was gay and boxed him to death.

[sporks5000.livejournal.com]

My friend Sean lost his virginity at the age of five.

[sporks5000.livejournal.com]

You will notice, I might point out, that the majority of characters that I relate too enough to put them in my icons are femanine.

[sporks5000.livejournal.com]

You too? (http://www.livejournal.com/users/conuly/862683.html?thread=6524635#t6524635) We should start a club.

[leora.livejournal.com]

I assume, from context, you mean consensually. I know people who were sexually desirous at that age, but none who managed to lose their virginity, since it's hard to find a consenting partner. The only cases I know of who lost their virginity that young are cases of rape/abuse. I generally would be worried about anyone having sex that young, because even if they are ready for it, the person they are with probably either isn't or is really creepy. But I could imagine a healthy context for it.

I certainly know of people who were trying to talk others into having sex with them at age five. I suppose every now and then, someone succeeds.

[eofs.livejournal.com]

Perhaps. I clearly don't mind playing with boys, and you don't mind playing with girls...

But I'm not plaiting your hair!

[sporks5000.livejournal.com]

His sister's friend talked him into it. she was six. He has said that he recalls being more sexually driven before hand, but thinking afterword that it was "eh" enough that he didn't try again until he was twenty something.

[sporks5000.livejournal.com]

grrr...

Can we at least have tea and scones?

Oh I do so love scones.

[eofs.livejournal.com]

We can most certainly have scones. I love making scones. But I'll pass on the tea thanks, don't drink the stuff. *Is a failure to Englishness everywhere*

[tsukikage85.livejournal.com]

Apart from not thinking homosexuality is a problem, I really have to wonder what a parent who noticed that their son had "a tendency to cry easily, be less athletic, and dislike the roughhousing that other boys enjoy". Scold them for crying in public and make them join their local football team? Overwhelmed go (an Asian strategy game)-playing computer geeks can be heterosexual, too!

[closingxtime.livejournal.com]

change is difficult, but it’s not too late.

Gosh, they make it sound like it's a crime.

[fjorab-teke.livejournal.com]

Ummm...

The kids are ALREADY showing signs of emotional instability due to SOCIETY'S DEMANDS upon them...painfully obvious??

[fjorab-teke.livejournal.com]

Aha, I like how you turned it around for femininity...and check on MANY accounts for me too!

I've always proclaimed myself a tomboy and have a seriously hard time accepting "feminine" things that I don't personally really like. No I DON'T want to hold and coo at the baby, thanks. No I don't want to wear makeup unless it's a fnu color of nail polish...mostly blues and holographic shiny. Ugh, a DRESS? (though I did find a nice plain white wedding dress I actually liked with YAY holographic sequins!) I'm bi with a 90-something% leaning straight. All my main crushes were guys, and I'm happily married to a great guy. But dang there are some hot women out there (Alicia Keys, Mia Hamm, the lady on the Target commercial groovin' to "Don't Sweat the Technique").

I was only very rarely accused of being lesbian, and that was in college (of all places! I think my boy-crushes were obvious enough in high school) because I must've looked at my roommate the wrong way or something (and her guy-friends were digging for SOME kind of insult...though she knew I was very interested in at least one guy).

My interest in sports was only helped with my crushes being involved. Hey, all the more reason to watch! ;-)

But sure, there were lots of times I'd wished I were a boy, but a gay leaning would be even more frustrating than feminine tribulations and expectations.

[fjorab-teke.livejournal.com]

*LMAO* Hey I'm married to a romantic sap of a guy who likes to cook and likes old Mariah Carey and Alanis Morissette. I'm the tomboy who's more into sports than he is (although his thing is soccer) and generally hates "girly things."

Maybe we're just confused, but hey we're happy together. ;-)

[conuly]

For shame.

[brownkitty.livejournal.com]

Feminine, or female?

Something I've noticed about that list...some of the things on it are things that parents try and train their children to be/do or not to be/do. Most parents, for instance, try to train their child out of being a bully.